There comes a time when party girls hang up their party pants for the very last time. At some point, life stops being about cigarettes and alcohol. At some point, they stop paying for shots and start spending their money on home improvements. When instead of Googling the hottest party this week, most of her searches relate either to how long food can be kept in the freezer or how to NOT burn food in the oven. When she trades coolness for regularity.
Here are 5 feelings you start feeling when you stop partying:
1-When You Miss Wearing Dresses:
It used to be that there was a dress for every occasion. Even Tuesdays had their own dresses. Now it’s just dumb old jeans so you could be in the street with something that covers your ”LAMO2KHZA” underwear. Your wardrobe changes dramatically when you go from being a party girl to a regular human. But no matter how many pairs of pants you add to your wardrobe, you’ll always reminisce for your old shining-full-of-dresses wardrobe. And when an occasion does call for a dress, beware, here’s the dilemma 6 weeks before the actual event:
2-When You’re Afraid You’ll Miss Out:
Former party girls aren’t worried about missing out on the party anymore. They’ve been to a lot of parties. It was all just OK. Now they’re worried that they’ll miss out on just being better people with more to do with their life than sitting in bars telling stories about dropping acid for the first time. Partying is great, but every party is just one more day you let slip through your fingers because you were either too drunk that you sleep with your partying clothes on or too hungover the next day to even live your life like a regular human being.
3- Feeling Productive:
Having worried about missing out on ”life” for so long, it feels great to a former party girl when she is actually productive and feels a sense of achievement. Being appreciated for even the little thing you do doesn’t feel too bad you know.
4-When You Meet A Party Girl (Former Party Girl Perspective):
Identifying a party girl, even out of her comfort zone (the party), is pretty easy. You see her in the morning wearing her sunglasses inside and going to college or the office overdressed with her tall high heels. That’s not overdressed, she was in the same clothes yesterday; the party then the after party then the after after party. Her hair is a mess and she’s drinking Nescafe like it’s the last cup she’ll ever have. You know that one thought that keeps going through her head on repeat is ”JUST GET THIS SHIT OVER WITH AND GO HOME.” To everyone else, she’s just a girl who didn’t put herself together very well this morning. But YOU know her because you were her.
5-When You Think You Have No Friends:
Once upon a time, you were always surrounded by people. You were always waking up next to your ”bestie” after a night of hard partying; party girls are never alone. As for former party girls, they’re always worried that they don’t have any friends anymore, simply because they only see their friends like two to three nights a week, not seven like they used to.
It’s an enormous transition, but a friend who will be there when you need to talk, help you move apartments, or just simply reply to your texts when you send them is much more valuable to you now than a drunk girl in a bathroom vomiting out her daddy issues, and who disappears from your life entirely during day times hours (unless there’s a morning-pool party of course)
You would like to go back to the party you. But you know you will just end up at some hot shot party, talking to someone you never met before and who you know you would never see again. And by talking I mean listening to their shit silently, while a voice screamed in your head: “This bullshit is a waste of time!” So instead you embrace the new “former-party-girl” you and all the feelings that come with it.
