Written by Lobna Elmasry
When it comes to love, life is never fair. It’s not always give and take. Sometimes, it’s about giving only and waiting for no return.
And for this, life gives us no option other than having to face certain things without blaming ourselves for them!
Here are 5 things you cannot blame yourself for:
1- We cannot blame ourselves for giving too much or for giving to the wrong people. We cannot regret loving unconditionally.
We gave because we wanted to, and we loved because we needed to. You have to appreciate yourself for giving too much, even when you got nothing in return.
2- We cannot blame ourselves for what we feel, and we cannot blame others for what they didn’t feel. Love is not an equation; it’s not always 1+1=2. In some cases, it’s 1+nothing!
3- We cannot blame ourselves for the pain we feel in every goodbye. Maybe they shouldn’t have been called “good” byes from the start; they’ve never been and will never be good to us.
We never feel good when we have to leave those we love behind.
4- You can never blame yourself for feeling incomplete after they’ve left. Everyone you get attached to will take a part of you with them when they leave, and it’s never ever the same you again.
5- You cannot blame yourself for trying so hard to forget about memories and still failing to do so. Memories are not just pictures or days we’ve shared together; they’re parts of us which lived with parts of them. They’re moments of happiness and sorrow we’ve shared. Memories were never meant to be forgotten; they’re meant to shape us into who we’re meant to be.
It’s all about those wrong people who are meant to cross our journey no matter how hard we try to push them away. No matter how hard we’ve tried to change what happened, what was meant to be should always find its way. Those people were meant to come, hurt us then leave to announce the end of their chapter in our story, and make space for other people to come and fix what they’ve done.
We just have to admit that, “For some time, it’s okay not to be okay.” We just have to stop blaming ourselves for everything that has caused us pain. It was never our fault, nor theirs!
No matter how long it took for things to make perfect sense, we should always believe that everything will seem logical one day. Everything will make sense, but in its own perfect timing.
We should just thank everyone who left because without this part in our story, we would have never been the same people we are today.