Getting into a relationship might seem scary and intimidating for some, very easy and even temptingย for others. Sometimes, it just happens without you even realizing it; you simplyย meet someone and fall in love with them. However, you need to be conscious and make sure you are well aware of the following ahead of getting into a serious relationship:
โข Know yourself first
Before getting into anyย relationship, you should know yourself and love it because no one will ever be capable of doing that for you. Someone might help you or give you some confidence, however, if you canโt see the beauty within you, no one ever will. A relationship wonโt solve your problems; it might temporarily distract you from them. If you’re not in love with who you are, work on yourself first until you feel satisfied, comfortable in your own skin, acquainted with your identity and proud of it. Be the better version of yourself.
โข Make sure youโre not getting in a relationship for the wrong reasons
Donโt ever get involved with someone just to forget about someone elseโa.k.a. REBOUND. Donโt get in a relationship just because you feel bored, or because youโre afraid ofย ending up on your own. The list goes on. Besides, you need to make sure that youโre ready for a relationship in the first place.
Check: getting married for the wrong reasons
โข Make sure that the other person has the same intentions as you
If youโre interested in a serious relationship make sure that the other person shares your desire, so you save yourself the unnecessary heart break. And it goes the other way too. If you’re just after a fling, make sure you make it clear from the beginning so you wouldnโt hurt someone.
โข That you will need to sacrifice and compromise a lot
And you have to do it willingly. Of course, it should go both ways. Relationships need time and effort to workout.
โข Identify yourย ‘indispensable’ characteristics as well as your deal breakersย in a partner
Of course, you canโt have all what you wish for in a partner becauseย itโsย mostly a baggage. Everyone has their own flaws and no one is ever perfect. However, you should be able to determineย the characteristics that are deal breaker for you for eg. liar, lazy, aggressiveโฆ etc. Once you’ve established the qualities you want and the flawsย you donโt, you wonโt get lost and find yourself with the wrong person.
