Generalization when it comes to anything isnโt substantial or very enlightening. Nobody likes to be categorized just because they belong to a certain criteria, which they didnโt even choose. Men were born as men and women were born as women but no man, just like no woman, wants to turn into a gender stereotype because of that cosmic fate. So, next time you are about to make a comment that piles all men under a single characteristic, think again. Here are some of the most common stereotypes women believe to be true about men and that men would want to set straight.
1- Men are emotional beings too
For centuries, people have passing on the โinformationโ that men arenโt emotional. For centuries, people have passing on false information. Men are human beings; they arenโt robots that were created to eat, drink, have sex and sleep then resume all the next day. Sure, some guys are egocentric or douchebags, just like there are women who are the furthest thing from being emotional. So if a man is stoic or quiet, it doesnโt mean that he lacks feelings. It just means heโd rather not talk about how heโs feeling all the time; maybe it takes him time to gather his thoughts. So instead of asking him โwhatโs wrong?โ, go and do something fun. The rush of spending quality time together will instigate the conversation you were looking for.
2- Not all men are afraid of commitment
Letโs face it. During our 20s, we all feel like weโre not ready to be pinned down yet. For as long as we feel immature, we donโt yet feel the need to commit so itโs not a โguyโsโ thing, itโs an age thing. Some reach that stage faster than others while some arenโt meant for commitment, men and women alike. But the majority of men wouldnโt like to remain single for the rest of their lives. However, relationships often impinge on self-fulfillment, so itโs natural to make anyone nervous that theyโre missing out on something if they fully commit to something else. A USA Study revealed that 66 percent of men believed that getting married is better than remaining single forever!
3- Men donโt like shallow girls and they appreciate sense of humor
Playing dumb is a major turnoff to any guy (or woman for that matter), and it isnโt โcuteโ. Men prefer women who flex their mental muscles and can think logically. Donโt put on the act of a clueless girl just to seem like a damsel in distress, because it isnโt sexy. He will also question your intelligence if you donโt pick your battles and usually fight over pointless things. And if you can make him laugh, he will swoon at your sharp edged wit. Itโs always a welcoming shock for a guy to find a girl who can genuinely make him laugh.
4- Men donโt like it if you donโt have a life/personality of your own
If all of your opinions are his or borrowed, a guy will lose interest quickly. Incomplete indecision is an unattractive look on everyone; ask anyone and theyโd tell you that itโs a really annoying quality. The simplest reason why itโs annoying? Because sometimes you donโt want to be in charge, sometimes you just want someone else to make the smallest decision of where to eat tonight or where to hang out. Donโt just go along with everything he says because you want him to be comfortable. Guys actually like it when you banter and have arguments about your different opinions.
5- Men donโt treat their guy friends the same way girlfriends treat each other
Men donโt usually confide in their friends in the same way girls do. So if they tell you a secret, donโt share it with your best friend because you have this unspoken rule that โI wonโt tell anyoneโ translates to โI wonโt tell anyone except my best friendโ. This is just you violating his privacy. If a guy tells you a secret, itโs a sign of trust so earn it.
6- Men like to beย complemented
You know the quote โif you are humble, nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you areโ? Well, it most certainly is true, but we all need praise from time to time, even if weโre humble. Men, like women, enjoy it when theyโre told that they smell nice or look good in these jeans. It doesnโt even have to be words. Squeezing their biceps, touching them on the shoulder and lingering stares are all a form of compliments that men appreciate and actually also expect from you. They may act all secure and as if they know exactly how good they are, but this is just an outer shell. Never forget that they need compliments too!
7- Men like confident women
Happy girls are the prettiest! Thatโs a fact. How does a girl get happy? She becomes confident and trusts herself! And thatโs what a man wants in a girl. He wants a girl who is self-assured and not clouded by self-doubt and insecurity. We all have our low moments and thatโs completely normal, because too much of anything isnโt good. But no man will see his future wife in a woman who breaks down easily and let the small stuff get to her or a woman who diminishes her value. Men who seek out insecure women only do that because they know they can manipulate and control them to get what they want.