By: Naureen Youssef
1. I’m not waiting for a knight on a white horse to come and rescue me because I do not need rescuing to begin with!
2. Please stop saying, “God will repay you” because I did not lose anything!
3. Please stop asking “If I regret getting married” because if I never did, I would not have my baby girl!
4. Please stop telling me “you’re so strong; how did you do it?” I have been brought down, broken and hurt but I survived like everyone else, not because I’m a super hero but simply because that’s what time does… It heals!
5. Please understand that it doesn’t bother me when you speak about your kids, husband or your family… what I been through doesn’t make me bitter and definitely doesn’t make me envious!
6. When I go to a wedding and the bride enters, please don’t look at me with sympathy, and let me enjoy the wedding without throwing those pitiful looks at me as if I lost an arm!
7. When the couple starts to dance and I tear up, please don’t hold my hand or hug me because I am not remembering my wedding day and mourning. I’m simply happy for the couple and I wish they have better luck than mine!
8. Please stop asking me “How are you?” or “Are you hanging in there?” and when I say I’m fine, I mean that I’m fine. Please do not start acting like a psychiatrist!
9. Please stop asking me “what I will do next?” or “how will I manage being a single mum?”… I’m not a fortuneteller; I live my life day by day!
10. Please stop setting me up with divorced people, widowers, or unemployed men… My situation did not make me lower my standards or expectations!
11. NO, I will not be getting married again just to have a man under my roof because “This is Life” or “You need a man” so please stop with that piece of advice!
12. YES, I still believe in falling hopelessly in love, living a fairy tale and happily ever after and NO I don’t hate men now!
13. Please stop asking me “Do you think someone will accept you with a baby?” I don’t know but it is the way it is and honestly, I don’t even care!
14. When I see you and your spouse somewhere, do not assume that now I’m a home wrecker who wants to steal your husband away!
15. Please don’t ask me “When will you get married again?” I swear to God when I’m asked that question, all I am thinking, “Hmmm, I’m getting married in 3 days, 8 hours and 25 minutes, sorry you aren’t invited!!!!
16. Please don’t be shocked when I say, “My next wedding”. YES, I will have another wedding; are you kidding? How many girls actually get to have two weddings in a lifetime…? I call myself lucky!
17. Please do not tell me “Don’t wear a white dress to your next wedding; it’s the color of purity”… What the hell does that mean; am I somehow not pure now?
18. To the entire weirdo’s out there in our society, please do not expect that I’m an easy woman now. I’m still a good girl and my daddy raised me well!
19. Please do not assume that I’m weak and sad, while I may be superior and happy just like any other human being!
20. Please stop asking me “Do you hate your Ex?” My Ex isn’t my favorite person but NO, I don’t hate him and certainly, I don’t wish him dead! I have been married to my college best friend of 10 years; I had a fairy tale come true but sadly, it didn’t work out, as simple as that!
