Guys need to seriously take a chill pill. Just because a girl showed some interest in you or you guys hooked up once or twice, does NOT mean she wants to get serious and have your babies. Just like you might want to casually date or have some fun, some girls are also looking for that.ย This assumption that all girls want to be in serious relationships is justย NOTย true.
It starts like this, you meet a cute guy, you guys seem to get along and have a lot in common. You go out on a couple of fun dates and Whatsapp back and forth for some time, then suddenly nothing! He vanishes off the face of the earth and when you text him, heโs extremely cold barely giving one-word answer with no explanation whatsoever. Youโre a bit bummed out because his behavior changed 180 degrees out of nowhere. Itโs just plain weird. You get over it in a couple of days โcause it was just fun harmless flirting.
A couple of weeks later you run into a mutual friend and they bring him up and when you explain what happened, they tell you that he cut you off โcause โhe just didnโt want a relationship.โ You sit there perplexed, neither did you! In fact, itโs the last thing you wanted โ you already have so much going on in your life andย your career. You were just enjoying his company.
This happens to so many girls and women nowadays. So why is it that guys make that assumption?
Is it because of the double standards of our Egyptian society where a guy who hooks up with lots of girls is considered a hero but a girl who just wants to have fun and get to know different guys is considered a slut? So when a guy realizes that the girl heโs been talking to is โbent nasโ and not that kind of girl, he must automatically assume that sheโs looking for something serious and backs out, completely ruling out the idea that she, just like him, might also not want to date. I mean obviously there are a lot of girls out there who are looking for serious relationships, but it is not a โone size fits allโ kinda of thing.
Is it because some guys are just too self-absorbed and automatically assume that every girl whoย meets them will automatically fall head over heels for them? Very plausible. Of course, this doesnโt apply to all guys out there, there are some good guys out there, but there are also many douchebags who are too self-obsessed and too selfish to realize the world doesnโt revolve around them.
Is it because some guys are genuinely afraid of commitment? Some guys may have been through bad experiences with their previous partners or are genuinely scared to get hurt. This is totally fine, but it is unfair to lead a girl on and then suddenly cut her out with no explanation based on your own assumptions and insecurities. Be honest form the start about what youโre looking for; she might also be looking for the same thing.
All in all, every guy is different and the explanation as to why guys assume that all girls want relationship will remain contested. What Iโm trying to get at is girls, the next time a guy cuts you off based on this assumption when you werenโt even looking for anything serious, think of it as him doing you a favour. You donโt want a coward like that in your life anyway! And guys, seriously just STOP assuming all girls want to date you or have a serious relationship with you and act based on that โ give her a chance to explain what sheโs looking for and vice versa.
