London fashion week: – ten different looks, in pictures

We all have our insecurities; our Utopian world where we wish to live, be happy and make sense of our mere existence. Some people live in their thoughts more than others, struggling to see and accept others the way they are, and some are fighting real hard to survive. We all struggle to be happy.

I have been one of those unfortunate humans who tend to deeply analyse every word, action or breath by others or even myself. Living in constant agony made me think: maybe I am to blame! I realized I am actually! Shamefully I admit it!

Struggling with accepting others. Struggling with feeling unhappy because of all the hurt felt from others. Struggling to feel content because of day-to-day communication with others. Wish things were different. Wish people acted or thought differently. Struggling between what’s right and what’s wrong. That’s me!!!

Of course, I do not judge people on race, religion, ethnicity, sexual preference, etc. But when I think about the people closest to me, my co-workers, friends and family, and the way I feel about their choices or even decisions, I realized I do judge! I also realized that I’m not exactly a hero here… I am not a symbol of acceptance either!

In essence, I might have a wrong belief that everyone should make me happy… This sounds crazy but maybe close to everyone should feel for me the way I feel for them. Or more accurately, everyone should think and act like me! Whether we admit it or not, we all are in a way! We are all judgmental one way or the other. We all have zero tolerance to others. We all think we are right! Daily pressures are not making it easy either.

 

 Thinking about it? Well, if you think you are the non-accepting type, go ahead and follow these simple steps to achieve serenity.

 

5 Ways to help you accept others the way they are:

1- You are not always right. The world is not only black and white with a right and wrong way to do things; it’s a rainbow full of colours. Things don’t have to be right or wrong because you do or don’t do them.
2- Be easy on yourself. Judging yourself day and night will result in judging others just as hard. You are human; you make mistakes! There is nothing wrong with that! That is the way God has created you and there is nothing you can do to change that. Accept yourself to accept others.
3- Check your thoughts. Stop the thought as it plays itself in your mind. Don’t let it visualize into existence. Think about what you’re thinking about. Work on being non-judgmental and accepting from the very start.
4- Search for the positive. Focus on each person’s positive side. Don’t give the negative a room to grow. Not accepting others is a result of seeing the negative in them. Instead focus on what’s good about that person; their choices and actions included.

5- Think only of the present. Don’t think of the past grudges and don’t worry about the coming days, just focus on today. What is happening today, what is being said today, what reaction should I take according to what is happening today. Past and future will only generate anxiety and accordingly a lack of acceptance.