Many of usย go through phases in life when we’re feeling down orย weak and haveย the urge to find someone to be our light in the dark. The idea that a person is what we need to feel better, to be stronger, someone to lean on when allย else fails, canย sometimes drive us to take decisions that we wouldnโt have otherwise taken under normal circumstances. We may find ourselves urged to choose a partner who maybe needed for the current phase, but not until death do usย part.
If we’re self-aware enough to recognizeย whether our choices are made out of love or out of loneliness, it would make our lives much easier, but unfortunately this is not always the case. We sometimes go through the experience feeling that something is wrong, that something is missing, without understanding that our choices were not the wisest. This oftenย leads us to the paradox of not knowing whether to end this and feel the pain of failure and breaking someoneโs heart or just go on and hope forย things to get better. As time goes by, things only get more complicated, and thatโs why the earlier you realize whether your relationship is out of love or loneliness, the better. Here are some signs that should make you rethink theย reasons for your relationship:
Freshly Broken
If you started this relationship right after a heartbreak, you probably did not have the chance toย fall in love with the person you are with right now. A heartbreak doesnโt only have to be a romantic relationship. If a close family member became distant, a brother who got married or moved out, a father who traveled, a close friend drifted apart after filling a huge part of your life, if any of the latter took placeย recently, you should be rethinking the fact that you could only be seekingย the attention and care you used to have.
Your Feelings Around Them
The way you feel around your partner should definitely tell you the truth. When you love someone, you should feel comfortable and relaxed around them. You should forget all about your problems and insecurities. If you donโt feel warm and happy, if you donโt feel that you’re having the time of your life even whenย you’re doing the simplest things, if you feel bored or anxious whenever they’re around, you should definitely end this.
Morals and Values
Your partner should be the one toย support you and your values. If you’re giving up some values in order forย the relationship to work, if are giving up religious practices or morals you always believed in so that you would avoid any conflict with the partner, know that it is definitely temporary.
Together and In Public
Finally, if you’re better with your partner when you’re around other people,ย you are only in love with the idea of a couple. If you fightย whenever you’re together alone, thenย you donโt love your partner and you should definitely stop wasting their time and yours.
