Don’t! I’m serious; do not complain or criticize. At least not all the time and about everything and everyone. Didn’t you ever imagine what your very own life would look like if you stopped complaining about everything and criticizing everyone? I know that this can be unrealistic. I mean we are humans, and all of us know we will complain. But how?
Try to be positive about whatever
When you see something you don’t like, try to see the full picture. Meaning when your car breaks down, try to think that maybe, just maybe, you would’ve had an accident and you were saved the hassle.
Be more thankful
Complaints won’t get you a long way, but will rather make you more of a negative person and affect your life later on. Stop complaining that “kilo el tamatem ba2a b 9 geneh” when you go and buy a Gucci for a couple of thousands USD. If you can afford that, do you really need to complain about how the prices of vegetables are on the rise? C’mon. Thankfully you can afford what you want, so definitely you can afford what you need!
When you accept everything in a positive way, your outlook on life will change. So what you got a little sick, or even a lot! You’re still here, right? So what, God forbid, a family member passed away after a long battle with cancer, at least they can now literally rest in peace. Accept that not everything will go your way and that sometimes YOU will have to take the highway.
Criticizing however comes in two forms: Constructive criticism (critique), which is good or criticism for the sake of it, which you need to stop immediately.
Address it positively
If someone did something that’s wrong in your opinion, don’t offend them but rather put it in a form of a question: “Don’t you think if you did that instead of this, it might be better?” or something along these lines. It will make you seem like you care about the person, instead of coming off as someone who never likes anything. It will also make the other person listen to you before they start defending themselves or their actions.
Criticize yourself before others
Before you start pinpointing other people’s mistakes, try to take a look at your own actions first. Don’t ask people to act the same way you do, because they never will, and you will just get more and more frustrated. We all do things the wrong way sometimes, so let’s just all mind our own business. Even better if you didn’t criticize at all.
Be kind about it
When you criticize, even yourself, don’t be too harsh. Criticize yourself in a manner where you love yourself so much that you care for it. When you love someone or something you always try to improve it. On the other hand when you dislike something, you couldn’t care less about it, and you will usually dump it in the nearest trashcan.
Silver lining, we all got our own business to care about, so let’s do it in a positive and kind way. Complaining about everything will not change a thing, and criticising others might not change their actions as much as criticising yourself could. Let’s be kind and honest to ourselves and to one another, and only then we will see and feel the change around us.
