“We should just import you a guy from Mars- maybe then he’ll fulfill your expectations,” suggestedย one of my best friends jokingly during one of our ‘girl’ talks. In just a few semi-serious words, she basically made me question my whole mindset when it comes to relationships: should we have any expectations when it comes to dating or should we just let things go and leave caution to the wind?
Maybe Having Expectations Will Ruin Yourย Chances of Satisfaction and Happiness:
If we’re sitting there with a set list of expectations and trying to see if the person we’re dating will tick all of them off, I mean, isn’t that a bit limiting? How could one person be perfect in all those different aspects?
If we’re stressing all the time about whether our significant other fulfills this criteria or that one, we’ll probably end up worrying more than actually having fun and being happy with them.
No, he/she doesn’t have to surprise you with your favourite breakfast every morning nor do they have to impress you with unexpected gestures 24/7, but littleย surprises every once in a while are definitely crowd-pleasers and do show that they care.
Perhaps, Having Zero Expectations Will Be Unfair to You:ย
If you’re just going into one relationship after the other with no expectations whatsoever in mind, you’re probably going to end up being the other person’s doormat. Harsh? Maybe, but it’s the ugly truth. There are pretty basic things we all need to expect out of relationships that aren’t at all constricting or limiting.
Expecting your partner to be loyal, honest, emotionally supportive and there for you when you need them is definitely not ‘too much to expect,’ and I personally believe that if you expect any less, you’re simply settling for a non-fulfilling relationship that is bound to eventually take its toll on you.
So, what’s the final say? Should we have expectations or go into relationships headfirst with none whatsoever? Well, to sum it up, we should all have pretty solid expectations of any relationship; the likes of moral support, love, trust, honesty and loyalty. Other way too demanding expectations should be kept to a bare minimum- it’s better to keep our heads down from the clouds sometimes.
