When we were kids, we each had our own big implausible dream of becoming something highly far-fetched that mostly varied between astronauts, princesses, kings, sultans and presidents. Now, we’re somehow humble people and aim for more realistic career paths. But all of this means nothing. It doesn’t matter what we wanted to be when we grow up; our job title is irrelevant if we’re one of the 10 things listed below. 

1- Judgemental

Some people believe that being judgemental is human nature and that we were born to judge everything we see. Those people are wrong. We were born to discern everything and everyone we meet but never judge them. If you’re judgemental, that is due to a lack of confidence in and love for yourself. But when you discern your surroundings, that is because you are human.

2- Racist

The best piece of writing I ever came across on racism was written by a little African kid and this is how it goes:

When I born, I black
When I grow up, I black
When I go in sun, I black
When I scared, I black
When I sick, I black
And when I die, I still black
And you white fellow,
When you born, you pink
When you grow up, you white
When you go in sun, you red
When you cold, you blue
When you scared, you yellow
When you sick, you green
And when you die, you gray
And you calling me colored?

3- Violent

An eye is not for an eye, and whoever says otherwise has the capacity for violence. Revenge and hatred are easy, but forgiveness takes strength that unfortunately all of us struggle to possess sometimes.

4- Passive Aggressive

Don’t tiptoe around subjects that make you uncomfortable, because you’ll end up projecting your bottled up anger and confusion at the worst possible moments. Be a straight forward person because the more you speak up and voice your opinion, the more you understand yourself and begin to develop self awareness.

5- Sneaky

This correlates with being passive aggressive. If you’re always unsure of whether or not you should say how you feel, you will start acting sly and in return, you will end up making people uncomfortable around you. It’s a vicious cycle.

6- Anything but themselves

Don’t try to be smart like someone else or pretty like this celebrity. Be smart and pretty like you. You were born the way you were born for a reason and every single person on the planet possesses something nobody else does.

7- Mean 

Mostly all of the time, mean people build up a tough rude exterior because they feel weak from the inside so they try their best to bring other people down with them. Be kind to people, even when they aren’t, especially when they aren’t.

8- Full of themselves 

We all want to be authority figures and it’s a common misperception that to reach a high level of authority, one needs to be full of him/herself. In reality, the only way to be perceived as an authority is to be humble and down to earth!

9- Undermine themselves 

The idea of selling yourself can be unfathomable to some people because they’re not used to talking themselves up. But selling yourself is not synonymous with talking yourself up. It’s you stating your credentials and accomplishments with a good presentation. So next time somebody asks you: “What do you do for a living?”, sell yourself.

10- A doormat 

The line between being a people pleaser and a doormat is a thin one. Learn to spot the difference. Don’t allow other people to walk all over you in your pursuit to get them to like you!

So you can dream as big as you want, as unrealistically as you can, but always remember that it’s who you are as a person that counts.