One of the biggest mistakes women and men tend to make is believe that both genders think or function the same way when it comes to hot topics such as finding someone attractive and falling in love. The truth, however, is that men and women function differently. What women might find very attractive in a guy, men might not even think of or pay much attention to and vice versa. Which leaves us wondering what does each gender find attractive in the other sex? Well, what better way to know than to ask the genders concerned and observe the answers? Here are what men and women said when we asked them about what makes them find the other sex attractive.


1- “A charming personality is what attracts me to any man. I don’t care about his physical appearance. He might be fit and rocking those six abs now, but it’s not going to matter in a few years when we have two children and tons of bills to pay. In short, what attracts me to any man is a charming personality. I like a guy who would make me laugh even through the toughest times, who would be there for me through the worst before the best. There is nothing more attractive to me than a man whom I feel safe around.”

2- “I find men who make time for their families very attractive. Ditching our families might have been cool when we were in high school, but now that we are old, I just find it very attractive to find a man who acknowledges what his family has done for him and chooses to be there for them every chance he gets.”

3- “I find men attractive when they have a sense of responsibility, even if it’s just towards the most trivial things. These days, it’s hard to find someone who has a goal, and truth be told, there is nothing more attractive than a man with a goal. A man who knows what he’s doing. Someone who has planned how his life is going to play out. A doer is the right word for it, if you know what I mean.”

4- “Would you believe me if I tell you that I measure a guy’s attractiveness by only three things? His shoes, his watch and his perfume. Those three things could make even the worst looking guy seem attractive to me.”

5- “I find gentlemen attractive, and mind you, those have become so rare. Right now, there aren’t a lot of men who would open the door for you or call you to make sure you got home safe. When I find a man who still does these simple things, I fall head over heels for him. The world is cruel as it is; we need more guys who care!”

6- “Attractiveness for me is the way a guy dresses and smiles. Perfume also should not be undermined. A guy with good perfume is automatically 10 times more attractive, even if he’s not that good looking. Also, it is important to note that the watch a man chooses to wear could make or break his whole look.”


1- “I find curvy women very attractive, and by curvy I don’t mean chubby. I mean a woman who is slim, but still has some curves if you know what I mean. So yes, I think it’s mostly about her figure, because at the end of the day no one wants to date a skeleton either.”

2- “Well, to be honest, what attracts me to any woman at first is her breasts more than anything else and then comes her wild personality. I like playful fun girls who are smart and intelligent at the same time.”

3- “What attracts me the most to any girl is the way she smiles. There is a reason so many songs were made about the charm of a girl’s smile. It is seriously the most attractive feature in a girl.”

4- “You definitely asked the wrong person. It takes a lot for me to think of a girl as attractive. It’s a combination of things, but it’s mostly about her figure and facial features. I like women who are slim, but not too slim. Also, I’m not saying she has to be the most beautiful woman in the world, but she has to be good looking to attract me.”

5- “I think two things attract a man to any woman, her butt and breasts. And while we might not agree on certain measurements, because, let’s face it, beauty is different for everyone, there isn’t a single guy who doesn’t think of those two things when measuring the level of attractiveness of any woman.”

Finally, as you can see from the answers of both men and women above, men tend to put more weight on physical looks than women do, while on the other hand, women put more emphasis on personality and resources. This, however, does not mean that men are shallower than women because they rate looks so highly. It simply means that physical looks come on top of the list of things that make women attractive to men.