We’re all familiar with this movie plot; who could forget how overprotective Adel Emam was of his daughter in the movie โ3aris Mn Geha Amneyahโ, howย picky Mary Mounib was while observing potential bride Lobna Abd El Aziz in โHaza Howa El Hobโ, or how demanding Naรฏma El Saghir was as a mother in law in โEl Sha2a Mn 7a2 El Zogaโ. The parentย that doesnโt want to let go of their son or daughter, or makes the marriage challenging… we all loved to watch this movie plot, and thatโs because by the end of the movie, the parent would realize that the happiness of their son or daughter is what truly matters, so they quit the bull****, and the marriage thrives. Thatโs not the case anymore.
A fat share of marriages is crumbling, and a fat share of them is doing so because of the parents in law! Itโs like itโs a new trend! Letโs not even get into engagements that get called off, as if youโre cancelling your library membership! What is going on? Have parents become suddenly selfish? Are they the issue or the couple? Here is my conclusion for this trending fiasco:
1. It is a big mismatch
I never believed in the saying โMarriage isnโt about two people; itโs about two familiesโ but I do now. I saw it with my own eyes when two families donโt click together, when they make everything harder for their son or daughter until the two poor souls think they could only find peace byย separating.
2.ย When you let them inโฆtoo much
It is your life, your marriage, the only person who has a say here other than you is your spouse. Parents are welcome toย voice their opinions, but while knowing it is only advisory, not executive. Other than that it is her motherโs say, and your motherโs, and her fatherโs and the whole neighborhoodโsโฆ thatโs just too much people in one marriage, of course it will explode.
3. When the son and daughter are too dependent on their parents
This point differs from the previous one in the fact that you donโt just let them in, you ask them in because you canโt do on your own. Youโre too dependent on them to do anything yourself, and I wonโt put off the evil day anymore. You shouldnโt have gotten married in the first place, because the core of marriage is responsibility.
4. Parents think no one is good enough for their kids
Parents love their kids, there is no question about that. Of course they will want to see them with a perfect partner, but when no one is ever good enough. When they find faults in everything their son/daughter in law does, this puts pressure on the marriage until eventually it becomes at the risk of falling apart.
5. When you donโt have a strong relationship
At the end, a house divided against itself canโt stand. I know it is a lot of stressย to have a parent in law waging war against you, but still, a strong relationship can stand its ground toward anything. I didnโt say, you donโt love each other enough, but I said you donโt have a strong relationship, thatโs different. If you donโt know the difference, that should tell you something.
