Sometimes, we might not realize it but we’re actually sabotaging our own relationship. It’s hard to work out the ways. But often times when you start reflecting on your own actions, you understand the things you do that could have led to your partner feeling pushed away. So what are these tell-tale ways?

1- Lack of appreciation

Forgetting to say thank you is a sure sign that you’re not giving your partner the thanks they deserve. Do not take them for granted or they will look for love and appreciation elsewhere, that’s just the way it goes! giphy

2- Playing hard to get

Everyone tells you “et2alii” etc. As if it’s just a game. But when you truly care about someone, it shouldn’t be a game. Being standoffish might have been a good way to make the “chase” interesting when you were in the first stages of the relationship. But if it persists, it only makes things tedious. A little fun and games is all well and good, as long as there is an end goal. heatherignoringyou

3- Not making time

We all get very busy sometimes, that’s just the way life is. Work and academics can take up so much of your time. But if you don’t make time for your partner, then you’re clearly pushing them away. Even when you don’t have time, you should always factor your partner into your life or else they will feel like you’re not including them.tumblr_m17b6w4I2D1r8fe7uo1_500

4- Playing the blame game

Fighting is a necessary evil of any relationship. But when you try and blame someone or point out that they’re wrong in a fight, it’s a problem. It becomes clear that you’re only trying to win the fight rather than keep the relationship going. Your-Fault-Boo-Boo

5- Not including them in other activities 

If you don’t tell your partner about how your work, academics or life is going, they will always feel like they’re on the outside looking in. As a result, you will feel misunderstood. Communication is important for any relationship to thrive. post-36854-none-of-your-business-gif-Imgu-Is32

6- Expecting them to fix your problems

Your partner is not your therapist! They can listen to you, help and support you. But at the end of the day, it’s up to you to fix things. You can’t expect them to deal with what you’re dealing with. Your problems are your own, and the only one who can truly comprehend them is you! Talking to your partner and letting them know about your troubles is okay, but expecting them to fix you is in no way healthy. c570dcb0-080f-0133-f4a1-0e18518aac2f

7- Making it all about you

There are two people in a relationship! It’s a 50/50, not a 60/40. No one should get more attention or more love than the other person. At the end of the day, you’re both important which is why making it all about you is unfair to your partner. 200_s

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