The world is constantly changing. What has once worked for us girls, doesn’t necessarily do anymore. Many girls are leaving the fairy tale fantasy we grew accustomed to behind and choosing the single independent life forever. Now you might blame that on our daddy issues, but we are here to reveal the real reasons for those who want to listen!
1. It’s not because our parents set a bad example, we just don’t feel like it’s the right path for us
Being in love and sharing our lives with one person for the rest of our lives sounds really nice, but it’s just not for us. We don’t picture ourselves at home with children everywhere. We don’t want that. And we did have a really loving family so you might as well stop putting the blame on them.
2. We have what we consider bigger dreams
We can see you rolling your eyes at how cliche this one is, but is it really? What’s wrong with having our own dreams? What’s wrong with traveling the world for the rest of our lives? What’s wrong with helping refugees wherever they are, even if it means moving from one country to another every few months!
3. We’re focusing on the next level of our education
The world we live in has become more competitive, so if we want to succeed in our careers, we need more advanced degrees than the bachelor’s degree everyone expects us to be happy with. And in all honesty, we can barely focus on our education. We don’t need any other temporary distractions in our lives; the career we chose is demanding enough.
4. We Just never really encountered the kind of love that would drive us to choose to be anything other than single
We’re sure that love is great, but we tried it ourselves. I mean we’ve been in love before; we’re not robots! And the truth is, we realized that love is not enough. We just haven’t encountered the kind of love that will make us want to spend the rest of our lives with someone. It’s great for a minute, but to us, it is not as important as other things in life.
5. Our freedom means so much to us
We’re not claiming that the people who are in relationships are not free, but our lives are messier than most people. One day we want to stay in one country for the rest of our lives, the other we want to climb Mount Everest. One day we are content with our jobs, the next we we want to work as waitresses in a small city in Italy. Our lives are not planned out, and we refuse to be tamed just because our partners can’t handle it.
6. We love and enjoy our own company
The reason people start dating to begin with is that they enjoy the company of their partner. We don’t need that! We are perfectly content with our own company, and we know how to have fun. Our friends and family are enough for us. Not being with someone is not going to make us lonely. We got this!
7. Sharing was never our best trait
We are not capable of sharing our food with friends, let alone sharing a life with someone. It’s not a bad thing and we are not afraid to admit it. We don’t know how to share, just like some people don’t know how to ride a bicycle. It’s just a trait that we were born with, and are not ashamed to embrace.
Finally, it’s important to understand that whether a girl chooses to date or to remain single for the rest of her life, is solely up to her. No matter what her decision is or why she’s doing it, we shouldn’t judge her.
