Have youย realized lately that every time you started showing interest in someone, they gradually- or suddenly- disappear without prior warning?! No, it’s not a mere coincidence. Every time, you’re left with the “what was the problem.. what have I done” query.ย Maybe being TOOย nice is what drove them away; if you come to think of it yourself, you might find that people who areย too available all the time actually turn you off too. Try to put yourself in their shoes and reflectย about the real reasons behind this!!
1-When someone is too available, you tend to believe thatย their life isn’t that interesting. You don’t assume that they’re making room in their life for you just because they care. However, you’ll probably think to yourself- even subconsciously- wow, nothing must be going on for this person!! Of course, it differs from one person to the other but sadlyย thisย is how it is!!
2- You think you can do better.. It might sound bitchy and arrogant but we’re human after all. You can deny it all you want, but thatโs how we function. If they’re too available and always checking on you; you’ll take them for granted.. because they’re going to be there anyways so why not make them “Plan B”?
3-You think they’re not valuable.. think of it that way .. it’s much cheaper to buy a bicycle thanย a Mercedes. People love things they have to work hard for. The more difficultย you get anything the more preciousย it becomes; it goes the other way round too, “easy come, easy go” right?
This reasoning might soundย harsh for some, but this is how many people think! It certainly doesn’t mean you have to change who you are or the way you behave, stop showing that you care, or stop being blunt about how you feel. Straight forwardness and honesty are qualities that no one should ever give up. However, learn how to balance it out and decideย who is truly worthy of your undivided love and attention. Notice their level of interest and try to mirror their pace, so you don’t end up looking like a push over.
