We’ve all been there all happy and excited for this new guy/girl we’ve recently met or even dated for a while, or a friendship that we thought has taken a new turn, only to be hit in the face with rejection before we even realize it!! Or at the very least, we thought we were!
Shocked, we first wonder what’s wrong with us; diminishing our self-confidence bit by bit. Did it ever occur to you that we reject people too! Intrigued by that thought… I asked people around about their reasons of rejecting others!
Surprise.. most of the time it’s NOT ABOUT YOU!!! Some are a reflection of people’s personal issues and insecurities!!
Here are some reasons that could help you through:
- They didn’t know you were interested in the first place.
Most of us are very sensitive when it comes to rejection. So, instead we give the impression that we’re indifferent and that we don’t really care.
- Wrong timing.
Possibly, they just got out of a relationship and they’re not ready for something now and trust me you don’t want to be their rebound!! They might, also, be in love with someone else and hung up on them that they can’t even notice you, even if you were the perfect match. Or it might be the wrong timing for them because their life is too busy now or they might be focusing on their career and simply don’t have the time to fall in love.
- They thought you were out of their league
Let’s put it that way, they like you but they’re intimidated!! They think you wouldn’t be interested so, they cut it short and back off. It might be that they have some insecurities, but who doesn’t after all?!
- They realized it won’t work
Sometimes, people reject others because they’re certain it won’t work out. There are actually a number of reasons why: you have different religious beliefs, you have strict opposing political views, you have different traditions and customs, or you come from different backgrounds. Simply, you can’t find common grounds. Yes it might seem shallow, and yes you have to fight for a relationship to work out but sometimes you need to walk away and let go. The earlier the better.
- Physical appearance
Yes it’s a factor but not as important as you think. It’s only considered when you first meet up but when you get to know someone you don’t give looks that much attention. However, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t always work on yourself to get better.
- Something in your character
You might be clingy, cold, talkative, or too quite and they didn’t like that about you. Take it easy that’s normal people are different and what’s not appreciated by someone can be admired by another!! Unless it’s a major thing and close friends have been mentioning and hinting about it, then again you have to work on this bit for your own sake.
No matter what the reason you were rejected for was, you shouldn’t make it get to you and affect how you feel about yourself and about falling in love. It shouldn’t belittle you in any way.