The Friend zone is a timeless issue that men tend to bring up often. But whether you’re a man or a woman in the friend-zone, have you ever stopped to think about what the other person feels like?
The Friend-zone is uncomfortable for all parties, especially if the person that has the romantic feelings decides to pursue them after being friends for a long time. You see, you have just learned that a person you truly care about has certain feelings for you that aren’t reciprocated. Then you’re faced with a choice, a choice that will definitely change the nature of your relationship with this person forever.
You tell them you’re uninterested
Easy enough? Not at all! I mean you know this person, like truly know them and share memories and history with them and to break their heart like that, it’s agonizing! This isn’t some sleazeball hitting on you at the club, this is your friend. Someone whose well being matters to you. He’s been there for you when all the jerks were being, well… jerks, and you’ve seen all the girls who have hurt him and nursed his heart back to health. Even if you aren’t that close, this is someone you would rather not see in pain and you’re in a position where you would have to be the source of that pain. Not enviable!
You give it a shot
Granted this could go either way but what I know for a fact is that trying to fit a square peg into a round hole is never a good idea. You can’t force yourself to have feelings for a person but it’s understandable that you want to give it a shot. After all you work as friends so why wouldn’t you work as more? You are going to give them a chance and try and make yourself develop feelings for them because they are good people and they deserve to be happy and you desperately want to be the source of their happiness. It might work out, you might realize something can happen but that’s still going to change your relationship with them and you might never get back that friendship. Or you might not develop any feelings for them and have to again go through the process of hurting them. The only way this turns out well is if you end up in a happy long lasting relationship with them, otherwise you’re either losing a friend or turning them into an ex, which are both terrible options.
I really hope people start to understand more that no one wants the friend-zone to happen. Its just a thing that we have to accept. So instead of blaming each other and being mean about it lets just try to help each other get through it in the healthiest way possible.
