Break ups are tough on most of us. They leave us with pain in our chests and a dire need for incessant whining and crying, and while any form of grief we go through is understandable, it is important that we don’t lose ourselves in the process and stay away from doing these 7 things!
1. Don’t talk about them all the time
When you break up with someone, most people would tell you to vent it out, and that might be great advice at first, but there comes a point when you should know that the venting should be over. If you keep talking about them, you will never get over them, so block them out of your conversations. Soon enough, you will realize that by not talking about them, you slowly but effectively blocked them out of your memory too.
2. Don’t try to get back on the horse again too soon
When we break up with someone, we have this urge to get out there and jump on the first relationship that life throws our way. We do it for the all wrong reasons. We do it to show that we’ve won the war, that we moved on way before our exes did while we both know that we are in no way near moving on.
3. Don’t isolate yourself
After a break up, you might feel the need to sit home, watch soap operas, indulge in ice cream and cry your eyes out. And while we get why you might feel the need to do that, our advice to you is to push yourself out of this phase. Get out there, hang out with your friends and have a few laughs. You will get back to your normal life soon enough.
4. Don’t hold on to your resentment
So you broke up with your boyfriend or girlfriend. They’ve wronged you and you have wronged them, and you both said things you can never take back. You hurt each other’s feelings. As far as you’re concerned that should be it. Don’t hold on to your resentment towards them. Don’t play the last conversation you both had in your mind a few more times. Stop thinking of things you should have said. Let go.
5. Don’t try to befriend your ex too soon
This is by far the ugliest part of a breakup. It’s the phase where you know that the relationship is over, but you’re not ready to give up on the friendship yet. And while you can always be friends with your ex again, it’s important to take your distance from them at first, at least until you learn how to make it on your own.
6. Stalk your ex on social media
There is a reason the saying “out of sight, out of mind” is used so much. And while stalking your ex on social media might seem like a good idea and while you might want to know about their whereabouts and what they’re doing, you need to know when to back off because your ex doesn’t and shouldn’t take a part of your life anymore.
7. Obsess over his/her new partner
So what if he or she are dating now. They don’t have to live up to your expectations, and you shouldn’t be comparing yourself to their new partner. Them committing to a new person, doesn’t mean that they never loved you, or that their new partner is prettier or better. It just means that life has happened and they went about their way, and you should too!
Finally, breaking up with your partner is not the end of the world. You will get by!