Our minds can play games on us at times. There are those days when we can get really self-destructive and find ourselves over thinking, over-analyzing and doubting our every turn. It can be a losing battle really, and nothing good ever comes out of it. Let’s acknowledge the fact that the only way for us to grow is by starting to adopt new attitudes and behaviors that can help us survive the challenging roller-coaster that this life is.

Stop giving up

The one thing we know for sure is, that no one ever succeeded by giving up. It’s actually that simple. Quitting means you chose to take the easy way out, and trust me, no one ever learned anything by walking away.

Don’t take everything too personally

We tend to think that the whole world revolves around us at times, when it really doesn’t. The colleague you think hates you, doesn’t care enough to develop feelings towards you. The fit girl in the gym you think is mocking your every move, doesn’t even know you exist. Chill because even if they have certain feelings or judgments towards you, that has to do more with them and their perceptions than you. Take things casually; the positive energy you will acquire will be worth much more!

Stop being too envious of everyone around you

Let’s get this straight; resenting other people’s success will get you nowhere. Embrace their successes and learn from them. Have confidence in yourself and know that eventually you will get where you want to be too.

Stop trying to make everything stay as it is

Change is inevitable and there is really no way around it. Just accept change, and remember that more often than not, change will be good for you. It will help you acquire better qualities and provide you with opportunities you never thought attainable.

Know that dwelling on the past is useless

The past is literally in the past. There is no way you can get it back. It doesn’t matter how great it was. Believe it or not, we tend to view the past better than it really was, so just don’t. It’s gone with its good and bad so learn from it and move on.

Avoid making uncalled for judgments about others

If you’re fast to make judgments about people, it’s time to stop. Most people are not what they show. In fact I like to believe that if we dig deeper in every human being we meet, we are bound to find something we like about them. Give it time, and try to really get to know the person in front of you before you judge them.

Stop worrying about things you can’t control

I tried to think of a better way of putting this, but there really isn’t. If you don’t stop worrying about the things you can’t control, you’ll end up feeling like a failure for the rest of your life. Sometimes you just have to let it be. If you can’t fix it, then maybe it’s time to stop worrying about it.

Stop victimizing yourself

Long story short, you are the author of your own story. You’re not a victim, and nothing is out of your control. Stop complaining and start doing; it’s that simple. Blaming others for your failures will get you absolutely nowhere.

Finally, if you feel like you struggle with some of these toxic behaviors, then you should know you are not alone. Humans are bound to face some of these. What’s important, however, is how you choose to act on these behaviors. Do you plan on pursuing or stopping them?