I tend to call it the Ghost Protocol. When a guy keeps disappearing andĀ reappearing in your life. He is here, and the minute you turn around, he is not. Just like a ghost, who is supposed to be gone, but oddly enough his soul still roams around you.

I know each of us has a different story, but when it comes to this type of behaviour, this modern trend, you will be surprised by howĀ similar the plot line is.

So you went out with a guy. You hadĀ several seemingly great dates. He said more than once how much he liked you, and you started to like him back. You finally feel like youā€™ve met someone you really enjoy spending time with. AndĀ as soon as you settled on the idea of having this guy around *snap* the unthinkable happened.

Poof… He Disappears

He put on the Harry Potter cloak of invisibility.Ā You donā€™t hear from him. You text, and there is no response. Your dignity refrains you from calling again. But you start thinking that maybe something bad happened. But then again you heard from some common friends that he was doing fine. So you got it. He is not that into you!

No matter how much you pretend that you’re fine, you’re not. When we make the effort to adjust our life in order to include someone new, especially romantically,Ā we emotionally invest in them. So it’s really hard when they just turn around and leave without prior heads up. But you’re a survivor anyway,Ā so you go on with your life. And just when you’re about to turn this page…

Abra Kadabra, He Reappears!

The funny part here is that they usually act as if no time has passed, as if you were together only yesterday. You’re so glad he is back (let’s not lie about that) so you turn a blind eyeĀ to the past behaviour, thinking he figured out his mistake, andĀ that he won’t do it again.

So you rewind your tape together, and start dating again. Everything is perfect, only he disappeared again!!! Then reappears, only to be gone… He just keeps on doing that, and each time you tell yourself you won’t ever talk to him again! But as soon as he says hi and does a romantic gesture to win you over, you fall for him all over again.

“Donā€™t be flattered that he misses you. The only reason he can miss you is because heā€™s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”

Here areĀ a few reasons why some guys pull the ghosting behaviour: It could mean he is multi-dating,Ā or he is really busy with work, family or life and you’re not hisĀ top priority, or maybeĀ he is commitment-phobic or doesn’t want a relationship so he keeps thingsĀ at a certain level, or maybeĀ he is not sure how he feels about you. See, the possibilities are endless, and when you ask him, you will never get a straight answer.

“Donā€™tĀ waste your time onĀ or give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about his feelings for you.”

When a guy wants to make a relationship work, he will move mountains to keep the girl he loves. Guys who can’t live without you, won’t ghost you!Ā Don’t you wish forĀ someone who’ll forget aboutĀ everything in life before they forget about you? If he likes you but forĀ personal reasons needs to take things slow, (which is completely fine) he will let you know that immediately. Or if he has a lot on his plate at the moment, he wonā€™t keep you guessing. Because heā€™ll want to make sure you donā€™t get frustrated andĀ walk away.

Don’t settle for less. You shouldn’t beĀ hopelessly staring at your phone, waiting for it to ring. You shouldn’t go through the headache of calling him or not, when you know you shouldnā€™t. OrĀ stopping yourself from getting into another relationship in case he showed up again. You deserve someone who will show up, who you know will be there when everyone is gone. Not his ghost!