There’s something about the warm weather and the brief break from school or work, that creates the perfect opportunity to meet new people and have new experiences. Summer tends to bring out a relaxed mind-set for many, putting the thought of a temporary summer romance in the back of every single girl’s mind. We have to admit that the summer atmosphere makes you want to be with someone; it brings out the romantic and wild side of you. But will this fling really end after the summer? Or will you get attached?
What is a summer fling? Well, it’s a sexual and romantic adventure free of hassles, commitments or drama, timed for the duration of the summer only. Why does it work? Because it is light and fun-filled with nothing to worry about at the end of the season since there is always a mutual agreement that it won’t last. If what is making this romance hot is the excitement, and not the fact that there’s any real connection between you, then the flames will probably die out as soon as you get back to the city and the real world. But is that always the case? Sadly, no. As we all know, girls get attached ten times faster than guys, which sometimes makes it harder to let go of the guy when the summer ends. So what if you fall for the guy and want something more than just a fling? Is it possible?
Well, since I am an Egyptian girl coming from a typical Egyptian background, let me tell you this: a guy will probably not take seriously a girl who was once his summer fling, and spent a whole summer with him with no strings attached. But if you’re really into him and want the relationship to become more serious, then you should at least give it a try. A summer fling is sometimes a bit of a secret, so try as much as you can to introduce him to your real world. Let him meet your friends, and maybe some members of the family, but in an indirect way so that he won’t panic and feel that you’re trying to tie him down. When a guy sees you amongst your friends, he gets to know the real YOU! You should also get inside his real world by asking him a lot of questions and taking every opportunity to hang out with his friends as well. That will make you build a strong emotional connection and show that your relationship is more than just kisses.
I personally believe that the summer is the perfect time to start a relationship since you probably spend most of your day together, which gives you time to get to know each other better, little time to play the usual games, and time to create many memorable moments. Believe it or not, taking a lot of pictures helps the relationship to stay alive. Every time you see a picture, it makes you start reminiscing and remembering the great times you had together, and maybe even wonder if it was meant to last.
‘Summer fling’ is a loosely defined term, so make sure to talk about it with your guy from the start so no one gets hurt. If you’re looking to make your fling something more, make sure he’s on the same page as well. Near the end of the summer, talk to each other about what you hope will happen next. If you both agree that you want to stay together, work out a plan for how you will change your relationship from ‘no strings attached’ to ‘committed to each other’. Try to be realistic about your expectations. Even if your love survives, it probably won’t be as exciting or intense as it was over the summer. That’s okay, it just means that your relationship is maturing. If your summer fling is dying out, don’t force it. Some flings weren’t meant to last, and you’re better off parting ways than making each other suffer through awkward phone calls and jealous accusations.
In the heat and frivolity of summer, emotions fly high and love affairs are born. A summer fling burns a lasting memory in our hearts and minds. While no summer fling is the same as another, I want all women to agree on one thing: have no regrets for taking a chance on love, no matter how fleeting it was. Having a variety of flings can actually help you to focus in on what you want in a mate, and what you don’t.
