Right now, you might be consumed with all the wedding night madness, but it’s important that you make some time for yourself to enjoy the single life, cross some things off your pre-marriage โbucket listโand discuss crucial topics with your future hubby while you still can. After all, we donโt want you to look back in 10 or 20 years, when youโre hopefully happily married and with dozens of kids by your side, and feel nostalgic for things you didnโt even do! If youโre wondering what to do before you get hitched, here are a few tips or a 100! Pick your choice.
Things to do for yourself
- Live alone, even if itโs for one month or a few weeks
- Learn to cook meals that you like, but donโt do it so that you can cook for your hubby, do it for yourself
- Spend your money on an investment piece, even if itโs that ridiculously expensive car or gold pair of earrings youโve been dreaming of since forever
- Pursue a new hobby, who knows maybe youโll finally discover the artist within you
- Learn to say no without giving out explanations. Say no just because you donโt feel like it!
- But also learn how to say yes. Get out of your comfort zone every once in a while. Itโs healthy
- Figure out how to enjoy your own company. Take a solo trip or two
- Spend time with your parents, maybe take a few days off work and travel somewhere
- Spend as much time as you can with your friends. Take some road trips. Go out dancing, or even better, stay in and sing your lungs out
- Face down one of your fears. Are you afraid of heights? Time to trek Mount Saint Catherine?
- Quit your boring ordinary job and start chasing your dream job, even if it feels absolutely unattainable
- Donate your time. Volunteering is one of the most self altering experiences in life, and there is no better time to do it except when youโre single
- Get your finances in order
- Break someoneโs heart or even worse, get your heart broken
- Stay fit. Join the gym or take up a yoga class
- Work on yourself. What are your worst traits? How are you going to change them?
- Keep a diary, and write down every single detail about your life, even if itโs silly
- Take as many pictures with your family, friends and partner as you can
- Experiment a little bit. How about a wardrobe makeover?
- Dye your hair blue or any strange color
- Read a book
- Get inked!
- Ride a motorcycle! The social stigma is overrated anyway!
- Talk to a stranger
- Complete any course that you dream of. Take up photography or social media classes! Whatever you want!
- Own up to your mistakes. Weโve all done pretty nasty things in life, and sometimes itโs good to just sit down and have an honest conversation with ourselves
- Learn to dance. Any kind of dance. Tango, Salsa or belly dancing! You name it
- Learn a new language
- Stand up for yourself every once in a while. Has your boss been treating you badly?
- Take some time off your partner and figure out which do you enjoy more, spending time with him or alone?
- Start saving money for the big missteps you could face in life
- Make sure youโre getting married for the โRIGHTโ reasons
- Stop keeping score between you and your partner. Whatever happened in the past is in the past
- Learn not to put your dirty laundry out for everyone to see
- Learn when to be silent, and when to withdraw from an argument
- Embrace your individuality
- Take yourself out to dinner or to the movies alone
- Learn how to fix things. Even if itโs as simple as changing the tire
- Stay single for at least one year
- Dump someone. We must learn how to let go of someone, before we let someone in
- Go on an unplanned road trip by yourself and see where the wind takes you
- Find a great circle of friends, that you can truly confide in
- Get lost metaphorically and literally
- Spend time with kids and little children. Believe it or not, they could teach you a lot about life
- Have a few wild nights. Maybe party out all night, even if you are not much of a party girl
- Find something that you are really good at, and do it for free
- Learn how to poach an egg
- Get a pet alone, and take care of it. Love it with all your heart
- Learn to love your body, before you ask him to
- Answer all the questions that pop up when someone asks you why marry โHIMโ?
- Finish college, because your education matters
- Have a talk with your parents about your future husband, and see if they can raise any red flags
- Learn to do your laundry
- Read Jane Eyre
- Buy all the gadgets and things you need. You never know if your future husband will give you the luxury to do it after youโre married
- Binge watch all the TV series you always said you would watch. You might never get the time after marriage!
- Boycott technology for a week
- Have as many sleepovers with your girl friends as you possibly can
- Take up a defense class. Learn martial arts, maybe even kickboxing
- Meet a tourist through a travel app and show him around your country
Things to do with your future hubby
- Sit down with your future hubby, and figure out your priorities. Do you want kids? When?
- Plan your wedding smartly. You donโt have to go into debt for your so called dream wedding
- Accept that loving someone is the easy bit
- Call up your married friends, and ask them what to expect
- Make honesty your number one policy
- Have at least one big fight with your future husband. Itโs important to know what youโre getting into
- Own a pet with your future hubby
- Make sure you have at least one thrilling travel story to share with your future kids
- Meet the parents, and really get to know them
- Spend time with your partnerโs friends
- Make sure that both of you call up your exes and make peace. Maybe even, find closure
- Ask your friends to tell you their honest opinion about your partner and if they see the relationship working on the long run
- Talk goals with your partner. Understand what his priorities are and what he wants to achieve in life
- Go on a holiday with your partner. It will let you understand your relationship better
- Discuss kids names if you ever plan on having any
- Talk about dream travel destinations together
- Find out what your partner hates, and if you’re going to be able to avoid doing it
- Find out your other halfโs stance on divorce
- Figure out what turns you on. Educate yourself! There is no shame in it
- Figure out the rules that you and your partner are going to live by
- Talk intimacy issues with your future hubby
- Learn if your partner is going to stand by you when it comes to family issues
- Learn about your partnerโs health and if they have any genetic problems
- Discuss household responsibilities with your partner
- Schedule regular money talks that arenโt ridiculously boring or judgmental
- Indulge in your secret habit with your hubby, whatever that is. No judgments
- Talk honeymoon destinations, and what activities you would want to pursue
- Talk about life with your partner. Bring out one or two existential questions
- Make sure you trust your partner fully and completely. Can you picture yourself hanging by his hand on top of Mount Everest?
- Talk about traditions and celebrations that are absolutely important to you
- Make a list of cheap dates you and your partner could go on in the future
- Discuss politics with your partner. Itโs important. Youโll be discussing it with him for the rest of your lives
- Find out how you both handle laundry
- Find out what dishes your partner likes or hates. Can you really live without Sushi in the house?
- Talk with your partner about religion and values, what you would like to be passed down to your kids
- Workout your couple issues before you get married. Better safe than sorry
- Cry your ugliest cry before your future husband! Let him know what he is getting into
- Go grocery shopping together
- Read a book about marriage together
- And finally, embrace whatever comes next in life!
