Pinpointing one’ s passion and direction in life is what makes our lives purposeful. Living aimless goalless days is a total wasteย of life. We need to identify our targets and set plans to try and achieve them, one target at a time. Pursuingย a dream motivatesย peopleย to become better, develop and grow. Dreamsย vary; they can be about being the best atย what you do, being fit, losing weight, having your own successful business, or even marrying your significant other and creating a happy family. If you donโt have a dream that pushes you forward, then what prompts you to get out of bed every morning? Successful relationships are those built between partners who both have dreams and goals that inspireย them to try harderย every day. Here are some reasons why it’s not a good idea to be with someone with no vision:
1.ย ย ย ย ย Making You a Better Person
One of the most important perksย of being in a relationship is that it should bring out the best in you; it should excite you and make you an overall better person. Being in aย relationship meansย having a partner who carries the weight of the world with you and pushes you forward to be the better version of you. A man who has no dreams, doesnโt think of the future or what he wants from it; a man who does not know how to better himselfย would notย be able to push you forward if he canโt even push himself. Everyone likes to predict their destiny orย the future, but that doesnโt mean you should just sit waiting for life to shower you with wisdom and success.
2.ย ย ย ย ย Being Sure of the Relationship
How can you know forย sure that he truly loves you? Does he buy you flowers? Chocolate? Does he take you out for dinner? What is his next step if there is oneย or will heย just stick to chocolate for the rest of his sorry life? Is he even sure that he loves you and wants to be with you for the rest of his life? What else is he planning for the rest of his life or at least for the comingย year?
3.ย ย ย ย ย Having a Successful Career
No one expects himย to be the CEO of Microsoft, but in order to succeed in life, he has to have a career, a job, and a decent source of income โฆ Love alone cannot put food on the table. How can a man withย noย dreams orย goals move up the career ladderย if he doesnโt even think of moving forward? An office boy knows that he needs to enhance his skills in order to make better coffee, an employee needs to work harderย to deliverย quality work, and a manager knows that he constantly needs to brush up his managerial skills. If your man does not know that he needs to do more than meditating about the beauty of life, you need to let him go.
4.ย ย ย ย ย Your Vision about the Future
What do you plan to do? Get married? Travel? Study forย a masterโs degree? Work? No? Do you plan to have kids? Three kids? No kids?
What does he plan to do? ….
You have to be with someone who shares your vision about the future or at least has a similar oneย to yours so that you can work on achieving it together in order to make the best of thisย future. No vision at all is never recommended; very few things in life can be achieved without a plan.
5.ย ย ย ย ย Dragging You Down
As time goes by, you will feel more and more like a stranger. Nothing you do will suit him; he’s a man who has learned to live without any responsibilities and if you think he mayย change at some point you’re probably mistaken. He was born and raised this way and doesnโt feel the need to change; he mightย just feel more insecure and jealous. If you still feel attached and you choose him over yourself, you will slowly start to give up on your own dreams, one at a time, until one day you will wake up and wonder where all your plans about changing yourself and the world has gone. It will all be too late then.
