Are you wondering why there’s such a huge communication gap between you and him? Simple, it’s because the two different genders speak two very different languages. There are far too many misunderstandings arising from situations where women just don’t understand what the heck a man is trying to say, or vice versa.
Below are 5 attempts at analyzing the communication styles of men:
1- Men are straightforward; they speak their minds
When a woman says she’s fine, what she claims as “fine” might mean that she wants to slap someone on the face while slowly torturing them to death. Consequently, when she asks her partner if he’s okay and he tells her that “he’s fine”, she immediately assumes that he’s either lying or hiding something. Don’t push it from here. If he tells you that he’s fine, then, he really is. Don’t make a big deal out of nothing!
2- Men communicate through actions more than words
-“But he still didn’t say it, Sarah!”
-“Just give him some time; I’m pretty sure that he loves you. He flew across the world just to give you your birthday gift and spend the special day with you.”
-“I know, but sometimes I get confused. Why hasn’t he just told me yet?! I’m going crazy!”
I’m sure you’ve come across a similar conversation before. The problem is that we, women, value words so much. On the other hand, men demonstrate their love through actions. You might be obsessing over those three not-so-little words, but if he shows you that he really cares, don’t fret about it. He’ll definitely tell you when the time is right.
3- Men don’t feel the need to spell out every single thought
Woman: “How was your day baby?”
Man: “It was really good, how about yours?”
Here’s when the woman starts to babble about every single detail about her day, wondering why her partner gave her such an abridged statement. Why isn’t he sharing his thoughts with me? That’s what she keeps asking herself and eventually makes her frustrated. The thing is, men don’t feel the urge to speak every single thing on their minds. Sometimes, they just like to chill and relax, leaving everything behind or simply for later. Don’t stress about it girl! He’ll speak up sooner or later, but not necessarily on spot.
4- Men are empowered when they feel needed
a) Man: “Hand me that bag honey.”
Woman: “I’ve got it, thank you baby.”
b) Man: “Why didn’t you tell me? I could have helped.”
Woman: “I just didn’t want to bother you. I could handle it; thanks for your concern.”
OH NO! Fire alarm! Never ever let a man feel like you don’t need him! I understand that you do this because you don’t want to overload him. He just assumes that you simply don’t need him anymore. You’re making him feel dispensable; take care!
5-Men’s primary needs are secondary for women, and vice verca
Men’s most crucial needs are represented in: trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and encouragement. While women’s primary needs include: caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance. If each of them don’t understand each other’s needs, arguments usually arise due to miscommunication. Many women reflect their care for their partners through trying to change them and improving some of their qualities. However, this doesn’t usually work because tbest way to help a man grow is to let go of trying to change him in any way. Just show acceptance during the process of trying to improve him and it should hopefully work.