We all have quirks and are super weirdos, but that doesnโt mean that everyone will like us in spite of that. Just like women are picky when it comes to men, there are certain things you can do/be that will make sure he will never pick you! Weโve asked around and the verdictโs out! These 7 relationship red flags were the most common answers!
1- If Sheโs a Wannabe Bride
Men donโt like to be rushed into doing something. They want to take their time until they decide they want to do it on their own. If you’re rushing into your relationship forward too quickly and are immediately ready to settle down and have babies, think again. Why fast forward through first dates, anxiety of getting to know each other and all the other first timers? If you really are ready for a monogamous relationship, then you should be slowing down and savoring moments.
2- Dishonesty
Dishonesty in all forms is unappealing to anyone. If you canโt be straightforward with the person in front of you, then you arenโt straightforward with yourself, which makes you a flaky person who cannot be trusted. Even half-truths are lies so tell the full story and donโt leave out the bad parts, because theyโre usually the most honest parts.
3- Being Materialistic
โMoney canโt buy me love,โ sang the Beatles 53 years ago and it still rings true to this day. Donโt be in it or out of it for the money. Donโt glorify possessions more than people.
4- Acting Motherlyย
While Sigmund Freud once proposed the idea that men are looking for women who resemble their mothers, guys donโt like it when you actually become their mother. Donโt guilt trip them into doing things they donโt want to do or to spend more time with you. Worry, care and love but not in a motherly way, but rather in a partner-y way.
5- Drama
Swinging from one emotional extreme to another, and sometimes in less than minutes screams self-proclaimed drama queen. Nothing good will come out of creating something out of nothing. Constant drama in life is bad for the soul, so chill out.
6- Not Giving Them Space
Solitude is healing and it brings peace to any relationship. If you are constantly at each otherโs throat all the time, you will eventually feel trapped, especially if you do everything together. You should spend time with other people on your own different times and get to grow individually instead of standing still together. So donโt be the person who throws tantrums when heโd rather travel for the weekend or spend the night alone.
7- If You Treat Waiters like Crap
J.K. Rowling once said, โIf you want to know what a manโs like, look at how he treats his inferiorsโ, because that way you will glean important information about who this person really is. Eye rolling at the barista or yelling at the bank clerk because you were having โone-of-those-daysโ or they mistook your hot mocha for iced is not sexy.
Of course every rule has an exception and not every guy will agree about this! So, if you have different opinions, please feel free to share your biggest red flags with us in the comments section!ย
