From a very young age girls are taught to look forward to meeting their prince charming, being a gorgeous bride in a perfect fairytale wedding, and finally living happily ever after. While still in collage girls already start freaking out that they are still single, fearing of growing old and alone. Families and societies claim to be innocent and open minded, while every day girls start stressing more, and from a very young age they already feel like spinsters. While families and societies in general are to blame, they are hard to change, so it seems to be the only option to just find a way to cope with the pressure. Ā  FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO Set everyone elseā€™s pressures aside and search within yourself on what you are ready or not ready for at this point. Are you ready for commitment? Or would you rather stay single for a while to rejuvenate and regain strength and energy? Do you need some time to get your career started before getting into anything? Figure it out. HAVE YOUR OWN PLAN Your family and friends love you, they probably have some vision of your future and how cute your babies will be, and at the end of the day they really mean no harm, they just want to see you happy. But donā€™t surrender to everyone elseā€™s plans for you, their idea of happiness is not necessarily what would make you happy. After figuring out what you want from life come up with a plan that would make YOU happy. DONā€™T GIVE IN TO THE PRESSURE Day in and day out you will be pressured. From random maids wishing you marriage for no apparent reason, acquaintances asking if there is ā€œanythingā€ they donā€™t know about, and family members ever so often wishing to see you ā€œhappilyā€ married. Ignore all pressures, focus on your goals. Donā€™t get all tensed up that your birthday is coming up, that you will be one year older, and that you are still single. COMMUNICATE YOUR THOUGHTS Find the source of the pressure. Is it your parents? Friends? Grandparents? Random strangers? Identify the source of your pressure and deal with it. Communicate your feelings and needs, and try to get them to understand where you are coming from, who knows, it might make life a little easier. STAY CONFIDENT You donā€™t need another half to make you whole, you are already worthy the way you are. You donā€™t need to prove anything to anyone, you just need to be you. Listen to ā€œSingleā€ by Natasha Beddingfield every now and then to renew your confidence. REMIND YOURSELF THAT THERE IS NO RACE TO WIN Did your friend just get hitched? Did a younger relative just get engaged? Great! Good for them! Wish them happiness and blessings, then move on with your own life. There is no race here, nothing to win, and definitely nothing to prove to anyone. Slow down, take it easy, and enjoy the ride. PONDER If you ever agree to start dating, take your time to reach a decision, and make sure you gave it enough thought. There is no harm in dating, take it slow, and be sure you are doing what YOU want and what pleases YOU.