Not every girl will win the lottery of life and have her best friend and her boyfriend like each other. Life is unfair and might as well recklessly put you in this distressing position of having yourย two closest people hating or at least disliking each other. That being said, letโs see how to get you out of this unpleasant situation.
First things first. You must locate the issue; who is the problem? Is it your boyfriend or your best friend who doesnโt like the other one back? Or is it a mutual reciprocated feeling?
Finding who is the source of the problem will help you decideย which approach you need to follow to fix the situation.
The second step is to let this person know you are bothered by the situation. Make sure to listen to what they have to say.
If your best friend completely understands that you love your boyfriend and when he/she are mean to him they are hurting you too, but still donโt stop, then they obviously donโt care enough about you. Itโs time to get yourself a new best friend. But it might turn out to be that he/she sees that your boyfriend doesnโt deserve you. If so, you need to talk toย him or her. Let them know that youโre a big girl and can decide for yourself, but give a thought to what they have to say. It might turn outย to be noteworthy.
Same thing applies toย your boyfriend. If itโs him who’s causing the trouble, ask him whatโs wrong. If hisย answer is valid, if he doesnโt like your best friend because of the way they treat you, or maybe there is something going on that you canโt see or donโt want to admit, give his words a thought but also inform him that itโs not for himย to decide. He doesnโt have a carte blanche to treat your friend badly.
But if he doesnโt like her/him because they donโt get along or because he’s jealous of the time you spend with him/her, thatโs not really your problem. Donโt be that girl who ditches her friends for her boyfriend. Your life shouldnโt revolve around one person whether it’s your boy/best friend. If one of them complains about that, it could be a sign of controlling behavior.
Also, remember not to force things out if itโs not working. If you planned a hangout and asked them how they feel afterwards, and still they donโt like each other, donโt push it. You canโt force them to get along; you shouldnโt pressure yourself with this either. It will put a strain on your relationship and your friendship. Either accept the fact that they donโt like each other, or make a choice between them.
Itโs a hard decision and one we all dread, but at some point weย must do things we donโt appreciate. You deserve someone who will accept and respect your friend or your lover, someone who wonโt try to dictate how you spend your time and who you spend it with. If one of them is doing the latter, if any of them try to manipulate you into doing what he or she wants, walkย out of that relationship.
Actually, the one who asks you to choose is the one you shouldnโt choose.
