Have you ever wondered why your girlfriend has difficulty trusting you and is skeptical of your every move? Deep down you know her trust issues stem from a previous hurtful and heartbreaking relationship. The question is: why should YOU get punished for other men’s bad deeds?
This may undoubtedly be one of the main reasons some couples go through tragic break-ups but they never actually realise it. Here’s what to expect:
Step A
Living in the past:
-You could be madly in love with a girl whom you tried to express your feelings for in every posible way but she just wouldn’t let you in because she still lives in the memories of the past.
-Her ex might’ve either cheated on her or mistreated her and gave her solid reasons not to trust guys ever again.
– That keeps her on guard and always on the defensive even though deep down she is sure of your love but a part of her will always be convinced you’re out to hurt her too.
What Should Be Done
– Be prepared to swallow your ego and pride if you’re truly head over heels. Be the opposite of who he was; be the best thing that ever happened to her, always be there for her and show her that it’s okay to love and trust once more.
If her condition is hopeless and she can’t forget about him, that would be the worst case scenario. Try to be her friend more than her lover, help her open up to you and get her to share intimate details she can’t normally tell her boyfriend because only then you’ll understand where her pain is really coming from.
Step B
Letting Go:
– Her getting over him is your hard-earned reward; she is all yours now.
– You helped her get over him and she knows you really CARE.
-You need to start leaving your mark; let her know that you are the new obsession, the new love story and the bright future.
What Should Be Done:
When you help her get over him, her heart would be fragile and you are held accountable for every beat and every feeling; it’s like your bringing it back to life. Loving a torn girl is the purest yet the most fragile kind of love; you lose her once and for all if you commit any unintentional mistake.
When she finally gives in, it would be like a real test to find out how you rate as a boyfriend; are you as bad as your predecessor? Are you even worth going through all that again? DON’T MESS IT UP NOW!
You might think this is a transitional phase that girls must go through between relationships.. but this is where you are wrong; girls only go through this agony when they have truly fallen in love. You are the next big thing; you are the brother, friend and lover; you are everything. You basically control her emotions but don’t take it for granted; don’t be the asshole that he was.
