Our first relationship is perhaps the only relationship we constantly find ourselves looking back at, and comparing where we are now to how we were then. Getting in the wrong first relationship could damage us in more ways than we could tell. It sort of paves the way to how we perceive our future relationships. We asked 10 Egyptians how their first relationship messed up with their lives, and this is what they had to say:
1. “In short, it led me to question my own sanity.”
2. “If you had asked me that question 4 years ago, I would have told you that it definitely gave me trust issues and turned me into a doubtful person. But now that I think about it, I think it was all for the better. It erased any sense of naivety I might have had. And the trust issues I thought I had turned out to be just me discerning the other person’s behavior towards me.”
3. “I think it taught me that no one is really going to be there for you. It doesn’t matter how many times they say they will, the truth is they’ll vanish. It taught me that we were born in this world alone, and we are sure as heck leaving it alone. Ever since, even when I get into a relationship, I don’t expect to stay in it for long. Honestly, I don’t ever want it to last either.”
4. “Would you believe me if I told you that it taught me that I’m unlovable? It’s just that it was only when I started dating someone that I realized how awful and hard to live with I really am, and ever since I stopped expecting people to love me or need me. I knew for myself that I was not worthy of that love.”
5. “It made me somehow feel insecure; I felt like a “Teenage Dirtbag”. She left without saying anything and I took time to discover the reasons and come to the realization that I’m a good person and that she was just a bit*.”
6. “My first relationship messed me up in every single way. It caused me to have a lot of trust issues. Because of him, I always felt like no guy could ever love me. That no guy could ever be trusted. I lied to my family for him, and all I got was trust issues and a strong feeling of being unloved.”
7.”It made me become less expressive and always trying to hide the vulnerable parts of my personality. I also became oversensitive, always trying not to be a burden to anyone. Some things I managed to work on, others not so much.”
8. “My first boyfriend was very abusive. He used to insult me and sometimes even slap me. When I finally left, I didn’t know any better. I thought that any relationship must entail that kind of abuse, so I refused to get in a relationship for as long as I remember, until one day I met someone who showed me that it doesn’t have to be this way.”
9. “I think it drove me to think that love is cruel. That it’s not a thing for me. I couldn’t love someone and be there for them through thick and thin like everyone else. It made me realize that I need to be able to live with myself before I survive being in a relationship. That lonesome and solitude were my best friends and there is no way out.”
10. “It made me lose all my friends. For days, I was unable to go outside my home and meet up with them. I couldn’t face real life, until one day I realized that the most harmful thing about my first relationship was losing my friends. It messed me up because it left me alone without any support system.”
Despite popular belief, your first love isn’t the love of your life, but I bet you know that by now, don’t you? So in what way has your first relationship messed you up? Tell us in the comments below!
