We often hear of commitment issues nowadays; many people get quite intimidated by the word commitment whether work commitment, family commitment or -the scariest of all- relationship commitment. However, we never fully understood the reasons behind our fear of commitment.
Some people acknowledge their fear of relationships, others only deny it. However, we all have something in common; we never fail to find reasons to flee from the relationship and RUNNN!!! We either become too picky trying to find any flaws in the potential partner or claim weโre not ready yet. We just find the EASY way out!!
AFRAID OF BEING BROKEN AGAIN
Most of us have gone through heart-wrecking relationships and ended up being broken. Consciously or subconsciously, we want to never experience this feeling again. So, we end up avoiding all of it, the good and the bad.
WAITING FOR SOMETHING BETTER TO COME ALONG
Some people fear that by being in a relationship they might be missing out on something better. Even though thatโs very common, but when you come to think of it, this is just stupid!! You might miss out on a great relationship just because you are too concerned that a better one might be in store for you.
YOUโRE AFRAID YOUโLL LOSE YOUR FREEDOM
Losing your freedom is something that you and only YOU are responsible for. A relationship will never be the reason to tie you down unless you allow it to! As long as you choose the right person โ the one who supports you and shares your dreams, the one who loves you the way you are and wouldnโt want to change you except for the better-. The sense of freedom is one of the best feelings one can experience, losing it is completely up to you.
YOUโVE BEEN EXPOSED TO BAD EXAMPLES
Whether your parents got divorced and had endless problems, or you have been there all the way through your best friendโs break up; either way you have developed a negative image about marriage or relationships that can hardly be reversed.
DONโT WANT TO FEEL DEPENDENT OR VULNERABLE
Some people are born proud and independent and hate the feeling of dependency, even in the simplest of ways.
TRUST ISSUES
You simply find it hard to trust anyone with yourself. You get scared they might take you for granted, cheat, lie, leave you, or break you. Itโs also related to being exposed to a situation in the past where you have lost your trust in someone. So, you end up setting very tight boundaries for the other person and scare them away.
FEAR OF BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR ANOTHER PERSON
Being responsible for your self is one thing and being responsible for a beloved one is completely different.
SCARED OF FAILURE
Some people have fear of failure; they are perfectionists. Theyโre always thinking of what if scenarios: what if we changed, what if it didnโt work outโฆ And the list goes on. Well, youโll never get it right if you didnโt try.
