Have you ever met someone and admired their personality at first, then within the course of a few conversations, you saw a very different side of them? Yes, dealing with people has become more and more complicated every day, because many of them are two, three or even four faced!
Appearances…
Unfortunately, some of us get fooled by appearances. Sometimes, we’re lucky enough to see the real image; other times, we just find ourselves opposite a big endless lie. Since people tend to have too many faces nowadays, we need to be cautious about who we allow into our lives. Don’t be too cautious though; you don’t want to drive people away either. You may find yourself feeling confused at times. If you’re an extrovert, you might get close to the wrong kind of people. If you turn into an introvert, although your chances of getting fooled will probably diminish, you will unconsciously push everyone away.
The question is, how should we deal with the new people in our lives?
Judging…
I personally believe that you should not judge a book by its cover. Obviously, most of us unconsciously judge people depending on how they look and dress. Although this may seem superficial, unfortunately it happens most of the time. Thus, before presuming someone’s personality, take a moment to study them, to know them better.
Trusting…
When you meet someone for the first time, it’s not advisable to discuss or share every single detail of your life. Don’t let them in too soon. Be smart during your conversations; be friendly, but not too friendly. For example, they don’t have to learn about your most embarrassing situations nor how much money you have invested in your new project from the first few outings. It’s better to limit your words until you know them better.
Listening…
Clearly, when you talk less, you will find yourself listening more. This is a win-win. Because on the one hand, you let the person in front of you know ONLY what you want them to know, and on the other hand, you collect and analyze a lot of information about them without much effort. Undoubtedly, the more you listen, the better.
Confidence…
Generally, as you study the person in front of you, they will be studying you as well. I believe that you have the power to determine how you want to be treated. If you show them that you’re naive, nice and kind from the beginning; they might think you’re weak and start to play you. However, if you display confidence, strength and power (while still being nice); you will be in control and they will think hundreds of times before messing with you. Never expose your weakness to someone you barely know.
Finally, you can understand from the above that dealing with people nowadays can be perplexing sometimes. One word of advice: do not trust anyone easily and always be heedful of what you say and what you hear from them. If you spill your secrets too soon, you might end up regretting it badly. Always keep your eyes open.
