The biggest issue in all relationships is, “does he like me?”. Well, I have to sadly inform you that he probably doesn’t. If he made you reach the point where you question yourself whether he’s into you or not, or whether he wants to be with you, then he doesn’t like you. I know that’s not what you want to hear or believe, and that you will always find an excuse for him even when he doesn’t have one for himself. The truth hurts, but it’s always better than staying in the dark.
A man, who is in love, will move mountains just to be with the girl he loves. He will always find a way to call, meet, or just even text. So unless he’s in a war fighting for his country, maybe in Iraq, then there is no reason for him not to call you.
Let’s start with men in relationships.
If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you or misses you, it should only be because he’s showing up at your house or work to do it in person … if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he has more important things to do, then he expects you to pick up as soon as he calls; even though this call might take hours or maybe days. Why should you be available for him whenever he calls? When it took him hours to remember you even existed! Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you for a while. Of course if he was in a meeting or on a plane or just really busy, then that is a different case. But if he doesn’t call to ask about your day, then he is selfish. It is a simple rule, if he doesn’t call you, it’s because you are not on his mind; Period! I know you might think it’s a trivial matter, but if a guy chooses not to do a simple effort and disappoints you on small things, he will do the same for big things. The word “busy” is a lame excuse, it might sound like a good one, but in fact all you should know is that this man didn’t care enough to call you. Always remember that men are never too busy to get what they want.
If he has already broken up with you, then avoid any kind of communication with him. I mean it! I know how tempting it might be to hear from the guy who said he didn’t want you in his life anymore. I know what you are thinking, that maybe when you stay in his life, you will remind him of how great you are, and maybe he will realize that you should be together again. But no! If he didn’t realize that the first time, then he won’t ever! He is probably calling you just because he tried sniffing for something better, and when he didn’t find it, he came running back to you JUST so he doesn’t feel lonely! It doesn’t mean he’s into you, it means he prefers having you around than being lonely. Don’t be flattered when he tells you he misses you, because he only misses you because he has chosen not to be with you every day.
If you guys were never dating, but still he tends to keep you hanging on, not knowing what you are heading to, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!! You don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone. You don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone. You don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing your feelings so you appear uninvolved. You know you want to be involved. You want to be with someone you know you’ll see again because they’ve already shown you that they’re trustworthy and honorable, and more important, into you. Don’t let the “honeys” and the “babys” and all the sweet talk fool you. It is much easier to be sweet to you then tell you that “he doesn’t like you”. But remember that actions speak louder than words.
Men tend to enjoy the chase. It is a well known thing. And they do not like knowing if they can catch you, because when they do, they feel rewarded. Let them chase you, for a long long time! It is a good thing for you as well, because they will feel they worked so hard to be with you, and that will make them think ten times before leaving you or even upsetting you. So when your boyfriend doesn’t call you for hours claiming he’s busy, don’t fight over it! Ignore it, as if you didn’t even notice that he hasn’t called you all day. Instead, when he remembers to call you, don’t take a couple of his phone calls, then call back 2 hours later saying that you were very busy but you missed him. That will make him wonder, ‘Did she forget about me today?’ That will make him exert more effort in calling you even when he’s busy, just to remind you he exists!
If he keeps canceling plans with you to do other stuff, then it is just disrespectful. His actions are saying that you are not a priority you are just an option and not the best choice for him at the moment. And you should never be an option! Gym or hanging out with the boys should never be chosen over you.
If he’s always uncertain or confused about where you will go or what you can do on the weekends, then it only means one thing, expect a lifetime of boredom! This man might be into you, but he might as well not be spontaneous. Or maybe he just wants to follow your lead, which still is a bit annoying. So always put that in mind!
If he can’t stop talking about how great the old flames with his ex were or how he enjoyed the things they did, chances are he still wishes he were in that moment. It doesn’t have to be about a girl, it could be about his friends or maybe school days. It still means that those were the best years of his life. I’m not saying he has to have a boring life before knowing you, but a good guy will always let you know how you changed his life and made it better, and how he has been having the best time ever since he met you! Living in the past is extremely dangerous and means he’s not that happy with you.
Girls, don’t think that men don’t have rules too! They have even much more rules for dating us (Let’s admit we are sometimes a pain in the ass too)! But if you play it smart, girl, you might be the exception to the rule!