When you first met your girl she seemed perfect; confident, charming, and sweet. And just when you feel you’re completely committed, you find yourself in love with a needy, clingy, and over-obsessed lunatic. Was it a trap? Was she faking being that perfect? Not necessarily! Women tend to act that way (and so do a few men) when they have feelings of insecurity. It might be something you did, or a scar that was left long before you came into the picture. But whatever the cause is, if you think your girl is worth rescuing and keeping, then I’m glad to let you know that you can fix her! Here is how to tame your girl’s crazy and needy impulses.

Stay Connected
Remember when you first got to know her, and you just couldn’t stop calling and texting her? When you’ve been together for a while, most men tend to care less about those contacts, sometimes without even noticing. What you don’t know is that your girl gets clues from those calls and texts; they act as reminders and assurances that you still want her and that you are still generally interested in her. It doesn’t mean that you must text and call her as often as you did when you were first getting to know each other, but you could call to check on her in the middle of a work day to know what she’s up to, or text her to tell her that you love her, miss her, or even to just tell her a random thing that you’re thinking about or that is happening around you at that moment.

Keep Her Posted
Yes, you are not seven years old, and she is not your mother, but letting your girl know where you are going and what you are up to throughout the day is only natural for a mature, stable relationship. This will build trust between you both, and develop the bond between you. Remember to never lie about where you are or where you are going (unless you are preparing a major surprise for her!).

Share Your Thoughts
Girls obsess and doubt – that’s a fact! A good way to avoid this craziness and calm down this volcano before it erupts, is to clue in your girl often enough. Talk to her about your random thoughts, or what bothered you today, or what made you smile. It might seem silly, but these tiny clues will put her heart and mind at ease, making her believe that you have nothing to hide.

Don’t Keep Compliments To Yourself
Often, you might notice that she looks exceptionally nice that day, or that she did something different with her hair that you like – whatever it is, don’t keep it to yourself. When you notice something that you like about her say it out loud; she needs to hear it and it will boost her confidence and make her know that you still find her attractive.

Belong To Her
Stay connected to her throughout your outings. No, you should not be stuck to her side all day long, but you also shouldn’t treat her like a complete stranger. If you are not sitting together, make eye contact frequently enough to show her that you remember her. When everyone is laughing about something, look at her at that instant; sharing a hilarious moment will strengthen your bond, and will make her feel that you care about sharing the moment with her. Always make sure she has company to hang out with and that she is comfortably seated, especially if she is hanging out with your crowd. To show you care without saying a word, lead her from one room to the other by gently placing your hand on her back. If you are sitting beside her, touch or hold her hand, wrap your arm around her, or even just subtly tap her hand or back. 

Forget Her Not
If you are travelling or spending the day apart, the worst thing you can do (other than flirting or sleeping with another girl) is not to contact her at all. No calls or texts at all will cause the monster within to attack you and bring you down as soon as possible. To keep the peace and sanity intact, make sure whenever you are apart to keep in touch and make her know that you remember her and are thinking about her.