As anyone who has been through it can attest, wedding planning is one of the most stressful endeavors known to womankind. We know it’s your big day, but doesn’t mean you have a free pass to turn into that intolerably demanding bridal condition known as “bridezilla.” Here’s how to avoid becoming one of those brides who throws temper tantrums around the clock:
1. Remember What It Is All About
Don’t lose sight of the fact that this occasion is not merely the wedding day; it’s a ceremony that brings a generous serving of excitement and joy to the table. From the thrill of hunting for the right dress with your friends and family, to the fun of thinking up the bridesmaids’ entrance, these moments are priceless.
2. Don’t Enslave Your Bridesmaids
Don’t make your friends regret saying “yes” to becoming your bridesmaids. Keep an eye for that fine line between keeping them busy enough that they feel helpful and you being overbearing. Don’t boss them around or overload them with tasks. They will secretly count the days for this hell of a wedding day to be over, since your tantrum had sucked out all the enthusiasm from their souls.
3. Use Them For Their Best Advantages
Use your friends’ skills to get the job done, meaning that you should assign them something they are good at. A wedding is supposed to be joyous and fun, make sure it doesn’t quickly become a chore for them.
4. Assign Someone To Warn You Whenever You Start Getting Out Of Hand:
We are not always in control of our behavior, that’s what friends are there for. Pick someone whom you trust to give you a wake-up call whenever you step over the line. If the stress makes you lose it because the table decorations aren’t the exact shade of pink you wanted, that’s when you need that one friend to raise the red flag.
5. Don’t Turn Into A Dictator
Being assertive is one thing, but being downright nasty is quite another. Everyone around you is only trying to help. Regardless if you like their opinions or ideas, listen to what they have to say. It’s okay if you don’t agree. However, make sure you stand your ground about what you want and don’t want. Just be careful what you say and how you say it.
6. Your Wedding Is Not A Contest
Other weddings should only inspire you with ideas and visualizations to your own wedding; you are in no competition on which venue is plusher or whose dress is pricier. The bridezilla, if not contained, can make you too competitive. Forget about outdoing other weddings or impressing people; your wedding’s ultimate purpose is to make you happy, so bear this in mind before walking down the aisle.
