1. He is not the problem…You are:

Realising you have a problem is the first step to solving it. If you are in one bad relationship after another, the common dominator is YOU. You have to understand that he’s not the one hurting you; you are the one hurting yourself by liking that type of guy. You chase him with open arms, waiting for the bus to hit. So the answer here is to try to understand and analyse yourself. Answer the question: Why are bad boys highly attractive to you? And then start doing things that make you feel good about yourself and help you gain a sense of identity.

 

2 . Love Yourself:

Love yourself first and everything else will fall into line. Loving and really appreciating yourself will help you avoid the old mind trap: “Better him than none at all”. If you get to understand how precious and unique you really are, you’ll realise that you deserve much better than a “couple of weeks stand”. Settle only for the best and nothing less.

 

3 . Be Confident:

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. Never underestimate who you are because God has given everyone of us something that distinguishes us from everyone else, just like fingerprints. You are special whether you know it or not and if you really understand that and believe it, it will be very easy for you to avoid being affected by the ‘peer effect’ of others surrounding you.

 

4 . He’s not going to change:

Your bad guy is not a project, you cannot fix him and he will never change. Forget about movies like El Sellem wel Te’ban ( Chutes and Ladders), it’s only a movie. He loves the way he is, he doesn’t want to change and there is nothing you can do about it.

 

5 . Think Again:

The nice guy doesn’t necessarily need to be the geek who is all over his computer or a clingy mama’s boy. He could actually be everything you dream of minus the issues, bad treatment and cheating. YES. A guy can be sweet, good looking and not bad, but how will you ever find him if he’s shut out by default?