Since you’re reading this article, chances are, you’ve had a taste of how being heartbroken feels like. Join the club! But if you’re lucky enough to haveย never been throughย this painful experience, youโre probably wondering what it really feels like. Well, imagine being cut straight down to the bone and bleeding to death, thatย might give you an idea.
There are times in our lives when we wish we were never born; having a broken heart probablyย tops that list. You will feelย worn out, sad and finished and thatโs perfectly normal. During this period, you will be hearing the โIt’s going to be okayโ consoling statement too often fromย everyone around you. I wonโt lie to you; there is a reason this statementย is future-tensed.
Having a broken heart is not like having a broken rib, itโs worse when it comes to the pain but similar when it comes to the recovery process. Like a bone, a heart needs time to cure. The healing process will take time, but is not impossible, though it may feel that way at the time. It’s never an easy process to go through, but with the right prescription, you canย be on your way to recovery and happiness once again.
The following prescriptions are for the early stages of this chapter.ย
1.Youโre allowed to be a drama queen
Love is a kind of investment; thatโs a cheap comparison but itโs true. You met someone, fell in love, planned to spend the rest of your life with him and then all those dreams ba7.. You definitely need more than a moment of self-pity. The โDonโt cry over himโ from your friends isnโt applicable here.
2.For the first time talking is healthy
Now that you’ve had a good cry, emptied a few tissue boxes and called your ex names, itโs time for some blubbering with the pals. It’s important that you talk to your friends and family about it. Talking about it is not only healthy, but will mend your heart quicker because you will release the thoughts and memoriesย that are hurting you so much. It will help you gather your strength, pick yourself up, and find the happiness you deserve to have.
3.Get over the self-blame
It takes two to end a relationship. Fight the thoughts that tell you that you’re a good-for-nothing and are to blame for the end of your relationship. When a relationship ends, it means that the two of you were no longer well suited for each other and that always takes two, not just one.
Now that we came out alive from the hellishness of the first stage, and thatโs good news by the way, is it really over?
Sadly no. There areย still a few bumps on the road thatย keep you from going on with your life; below are some tips to give a wide berth to those bumps:
1. Move forward and don’tย look back
Youโre floating in this sort of purgatory between wanting to crawl back into your exโs arms and doing your best to find a new love of your life. Thatโs perfectly normal but beware that doesnโt mean itโs okay to go back to him. He shattered your heart into a million pieces; why would you go back to that? You deserve better; keep in mind that this grief youโre undergoing right now is a process not a destination.
2. Stop the constant comparison
Now that you’ve moved forward and considered this page turned, most people will fall short while comparing them to your ex. But thatโs expected; you loved your ex and consideredย him to be one-of-a-kind. Bumping into someone else whoโs even more mind-blowing shouldnโt be a piece of cake. So when you fail to find new love right away, donโt drag yourself back into the depths of the heartache. Convince yourself that comparing is what’s keeping you from giving someone else a chance, only then you will stop. Itโs your call to go through life suspicious, or love and laugh again.
3. Feel the freedom of being single
No matter how stunning your ex partner was, they must have had some flaws. Nobody is perfect after all. You are no longer under any burdens to handle jealousy, fights, spying, lies and a long list of unpleasant stuff. Youโre free to doย whatever crazy things you have in mind with your pals: hang out with them, get a full body massage to relax your tired muscles or eat chocolate to boost your happy cells. He broke your heart and you broke his chains.
As agreed, the withdrawal would be painful but bear in mind that it’s only temporary. Nothing lasts forever, not even heartbreaks. Look at the relationship as a learning experience, an opportunity to improve your relationship skills, and a way to realize what you truly need and want from a romantic relationship. Let’s close this book andย start a brand new one.
