A rebound relationship is when you enter a new relationship very quickly, right after a previous break-up, just to get over itas fast as you can. You keep trying to convince yourself you’ve moved on, and that you’ve let go of your ex. This relationship is all about distraction; it will keep your mind off thinking of your ex and help you get through the hurt and pain of your last break-up faster and easier. Which is fine, but is this rebound relationship healthy? No.

 

Break-ups lead to heartbreaks, and heartbreaks could be very painful, I know, but pain is sometimes good for you. Let yourself hurt and feel all the pain and the stomach aches so that you become someone who is more compassionate to other people’s pain. Experiencing the healing process won’t kill you, so don’t try to hide from it by running into a new relationship. Do yourself and any potential new relationship partners a favour and deal with the pain of your old relationship before moving onto another one. And here are a couple of reasons why rebound relationships never work.

 

Great Expectations

You are still hurting deep inside from your previous relationship with your ex, so you will be expecting way too much, way too soon, from your new partner. Without knowing it, you will be expecting this new partner to make up for the pain that your ex caused you, which won’t be fair to him.

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Being a User

You can tell anyone you want that you’re really over your ex, but in fact you’re not, you’re just convincing yourself that you are, so that you let go and move on. But weeks later, maybe months, you will realize that, and that you were only using your new partner, and will have to break-up with him. Which means he will be hurting the same way you were, leaving them to pick up the pieces; you don’t want that, do you?

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Too Fast Too Soon

If you were in a bad relationship for a long time, you probably want to make for it by having a new committed, fulfilling relationship with your new partner. That desire could cause you to leap into this rebound relationship full speed ahead. Those are great motivators to have but, that sense of urgency could cause you to rush in the wrong direction and scare or push your partner away.

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Win the Break-up

When you break-up with someone, it’s normal to have the urge formaking them jealous and that they should regret what they’ve done to you. It doesn’t necessarily mean you will drag your new partner to a party you know your ex is going to, you can just make him jealous just by him hearing that you are now in a relationship, it’s another way of saying “See? I could easily find someone who will love and appreciate me, HA!” So by intending to hurt your ex, you will unintentionallyhurt your new partner as well. Put yourself in his shoes, would you like to be with someone who is using you to hurt another girl? I don’t think so.

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You just want to date someone, anyone

After experiencing a bad relationship, you will helplessly get drawn to anyone who gives you attention. So you won’t be picky and smart in choosing your rebound guy, and that might lead you to having another unsuccessful relationship and regret getting involved with a guy who was not your type in the first place.

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Proving yourself wrong

If your ex partner made you feel like the worst girlfriend ever, or maybe told you that you were boring, you will want to prove him wrong. That’s okay if you’re in a different state of mind, but if you have just broken up, you will have no limits or boundaries whatsoever just to prove yourself and your ex differently. That might lead you to do things that you will definitely regret later on.

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“REMEMBER HOW MUCH YOU WERE HURT, AND THEN PUT YOURSELF IN YOUR NEW GUY’S
SHOES.”

In closing, treat your new partner the way you wanted your ex to treat you. Remember how much you were hurt, and then put yourself in your new guy’s shoes. There are plenty of other ways to get over your ex and to live through the healing process; change your hair colour, travel with your friends, go to a spa, try that restaurant you always wanted to try! In other words, live your life as if he was never a part of it, soon enough those feelings will fade away and you will get right back on your feet! Hang on!