Iโm a firm believer ofย the famous saying, โExpectation is the root of all heartache.โ ย I always try not to have expectations forย anything, or at least keep them realistic. Many, however, set extremely high or unrealistic expectations with everything, and sadly in relationships as well. Sorry to burst anyoneโs bubble, but these expectations will do nothing but ruin any potential future ofย this relationships, particularlyย those below:
Theyโll always know howย youโre feeling
Communication is key forย any successful relationship. Expecting that someone will know howย youโre feeling without expressing itย is nothing but unrealistic. Of course, at times your partner would know howย youโre feeling without you having to say anything, but donโt always count on it. Itโs no oneโs fault; you only have yourself to blame.
Breaking up is not an option
Breakups could happen; itโs not a big deal. Being in a relationship and expecting itโll last forever is nonsense. You mustnโt obsess over potentially breaking up, but the option must stay there.
Itโs all rainbows and butterflies
It never is and never will be! All relationships have their ups and downs, and youโll have days, or even months, where youโll be dreading everything. Thatโs how things go.
Theyโll get along with everyone you love, and vice versa
Not because you love them, itโll mean that everyone you like will too. Your best friend could hate them, and youโll have nothing to do about it. You have to accept this, and not be crushed when it becomes a reality.
The sex will always be great
Newlyweds are always shocked when they sometimes have bad sex. Itโs totally normal. Giving it a second thought will only make things awkward and chances are youโll get distant.
Theyโll never change
People change; itโs part of life. Someoneย you were with years, or even months ago, might change. Personality change is affected by many things โ from maturity, to career paths, to family status, to just simply wanting to change. Try to adapt with them, or talk about it. And remember, no one changes over night.
Theyโll love me unconditionally, forever
The harsh truth is, people fall out of love for many, or no reasons at all. It just happens. It sucks, and no one wants to be gotten over in a day, but you have to know that it might happen. Knowing and accepting it happening will give you a better chance to try to communicate and fix the situation instead of actingย all shocked and dwelling over it.
It’s easy
Relationships are hard, and you need to work on themย all the time. Don’t take anything for granted and expect the relationship to last.
