You’ve heard it said more than once: “Life’s unfair”. “It’s a dog eat dog world” or even “the early bird gets the worm”. All these sayings are telling you one thing: You have to take charge! But it can be really difficult doing that, especially if you’re a nice person. But I’m sorry to tell you that there’s a fine line between nice and pushover. Which is why you need to know the difference. Stay on the lookout for these signs that you might be less of a nice person and more of a pushover. 

1- You’re a people pleaser200_sf

Now this might sound like a good thing, but it actually isn’t. You bend over backwards to make people happy, even if it means jeopardising your own happiness in the process. It’s a slippery slope, and the more you do it, the more you’ll be willing to prioritise others over yourself. Learn to listen to your own needs first before moving on to others. You’re allowed to be a priority!

2- You kind of bend the truth… a little bit?giphy

Because you like to please others, you’re not really sincere when they ask you for your opinion. You’ll agree with people when you don’t want to. And you might even forgo vocalising your true thoughts just because you want to please the other person in front of you. But you need to learn to be honest; it’s better to hurt someone with the truth than comfort them with a lie.

3- You tend to hold your tongue a lot 202919

Even when you want to complain or voice an unpopular opinion, you hold your tongue for fear of disagreeing with the person in front of you. But this is worse off for you because your preferences will get overlooked and no one will know what you’re thinking. Vocalising is very important if you want people to know how you think and feel, and it’ll help you avoid exploding later on!

4- Sorry is your favourite word200_s3

You’ll find yourself apologising for things you don’t need to apologise for! If you start a sentence with sorry, it already shows that you’re unconvinced with what you’re saying. You need to show conviction in whatever you say and realise that you don’t have to apologise for everything! There’s a time and place for the word sorry, so use it at that time and place and not anywhere else. It’s not the only word in the dictionary; I promise you!

5- You are a master of indecisivenessgiphy4

You like to be really fair to everyone but what that ends up doing is showing how uncertain you are. Picking a side is scary, but at some point in time you’re going to have to do it! Making choices is a big part of life. If you’ve found a way to avoid making choices, then I hate to say it, but you’re missing out on life. Be fearless, and lead the way with your decisions; it’ll make all the difference in the end.

6- You get peer-pressured too easily!raw

People use your ability to agree with anyone to their advantage and can peer pressure you into agreeing to things you don’t necessarily want to agree to. But when it comes to people like that, you need to stand your ground and say NO! It won’t make you a bad person, it just means you’re being honest with yourself and them.

7- You need approval a little too muchtumblr_mkatfimve21rt0x38o1_500

You want people to validate you and prove your worth, so you take on these tasks and voice opinions you don’t necessarily agree with, all for the appraisal you’ll receive in the end. But you know what? The only person who can decide your worth is yourself so don’t pay attention to what others think of you! Your opinion of yourself is what matters most.

So before anyone calls you a pushover, stand your ground and say “No!” because no pushover would ever say that!