Letโs talk about the โFriendzoneโ ladies and gentlemen. Itโs a term used when a personย falls for someone, asks them out, then they tell them โYouโre just a friend.โ In reality, however, itโs mostly used by men who donโt have the guts to ask a girl out and complain about it. Others actually do ask the girl out, and keep complaining when she kindly rejects them and tells them โletโs stay friends.โ
ย Hereโs the definition according to The Urban Dictionary:
What you attain after you fail to impress a woman you’re attracted to. Usually initiated by the woman saying, “You’re such a good friend”. Usually associated with long days of suffering and watching your love interest hop from one bad relationship to another. Verb tense is “Friend-ed”.
“I spent all that money on a date, just to find out she put me in the Friend Zone (said with eerie echo).”
“You know that hot girl I’ve been talking to? She just Friend-ed me.”
The term originated fromย the TV show โFriends”, when Joey called Ross ‘the mayor of the friendzone’. It recently boomed on the internet and became a very popular, not just term but as some call it,ย lifestyle.
Itโs a gender-neutral term, but itโs still extremely sexist, mainly because men are the ones always using it. Some women do too, but not as much as men. The reason is that women do understand that rejection is a normal thing, and most of them respect their love interestโs decision. They also donโt feel that it’s their right to be liked back by their love interest or thatย they owe them anything.
You love interest really doesnโt owe you anything! Theyโre free to reject you, and free to like you back. If they donโt like you back, then move on. Not because you paid for her drink or lunch, you expect her toย jumpย in your bed in no time. Sheโs someoneย you want to be with, not a hooker!
Relationships arenโt only about sex. The internet is filled with stories of people โgetting out of the friendzoneโ by actually having sex with the ones they liked. If thatโs how you perceive a relationship, then you have a major problem!
You should be respecting the friendship. You should in fact be grateful you didnโt lose the person and that theyโre decent enough to still keep you in their lives. If youโre not thankful for that, then you didnโt deserve them and that’s probably why you got friendzoned in the first place.
If itโs a pattern, then thereโs probably something wrong with you. You donโt have to call all women bitches, or all menย assholes. You might need to work on yourself, your personality, or maybe how you approach people youโre interested in.
Maybe you should suck it up and accept the rejection. Donโt blame the โfriendzone.โ Itโs a term started by pathetic people who canโt handle the rejection. Even in ‘Friends’, Ross was an egomaniac character who couldn’t really handle any types of rejection and obsessed over them.
So before you start sharing internet memes, and joke about the friendzone, think of the term. Is it really worth it? And always remember, youโll look desperate when you use itโฆ
