In our humble definition for fling, it is enjoying all the privileges of being in a relationship without actually being in one. During the summer, sometimes, this special someone appears and you enjoy all types of lovey-dovey things without actually being in a relationship. Although being in a relationship is something we all enjoy, flings have a different vibe that can turn around the whole vacation for us. Now, we donโt know whether itโs the summer sun and the beach effect, but flings are something we never forget. What if you want to turn it into a real thing? Hereโs how.
Integrate them in your life
After meeting your fling, make it a point to show them youโre serious about them. It seems like a risk, agreed. However, taking it is worth the shot, youโve got nothing to lose. Remember that your fling is neither a person you need to depend on completely, nor are they someone youโre 100% settled on. Introduce them to more of your friends โ if you havenโt already -, talk about some of your problems, and get them involved in your work or your studies. Help them understand that โ although they donโt right now โ but there is a huge possibility that they represent significance in your life.ย Make your fling feel welcomed in your life.
Communicate
Communication, as we all know, is a major aspect in relationships. As a result, try to channel in actual conversations and talks about emotions with your fling. Try to eliminate small talk, weather talk and beach talk. Have full on real conversations with them. Talk about interests, dreams, goals and futures. And of course, it wouldnโt hurt to flirt a little.
Make Plans
Although your summer together has been and will continue to be fun and perfect, make plans for after the summer. Plans that you intend to carry on and implement. Plan on going places together, seeing movies or maybe travelling. Be sure to make them feel like you see a future in wherever your relationship is heading and that you plan to keep them a part of your life. Include them in your short-term plans; make plans to see them when summer is over. Make plans to just hang out somewhere, see a concert or attend an art exhibition etc.
Show them Youโre Partner Material
Without making it obvious that youโre all over your fling, clarify the fact that youโre worth their time. Being careful when showing them that youโre the one they deserve, and theyโre the one you deserve. Show your fling that youโre there for them, and here to stay. Show them that youโre up for being in a serious relationship by showing honesty, giving your opinion, sharing your intelligence, respecting yourself and them, and most of all, not painting a picture of you that doesnโt exist. Prove yourself to your fling by showing them the qualities that make you who you are. Indirectly tell them, I am the most qualified one here.
Show Commitment
Try to show them that you are somewhat committed. Make it clear that at the moment, theyโre the only person youโre optimistic about. Mention a few times that they are the only ones youโre talking to, the only ones you want to see right now, the ones you came all this way for. Donโt overdo it though, in order not to freak them out. Simply lay out all the facts about the effort youโre making to be around them; flirt a little and centre a lot of your attention on them. They will be doing the same, if it truly is a mutual fling.
Do More Things Togetherย
In hopes to keep your fling around, try to invest extra effort in doing activities together. Donโt ghost your group of friends of course. But try to have some private time with only the two of you. Maybe take a few walks on the beach, go for lunch alone, or spend a night out just the two of you to get to know each other more. In the process, introduce each other to your favourite activities, and do them together. Watch your favourite movies or listen to your favourite music together.
Donโt Panic
Panic only breeds more panic. Your panicking will only cause them to panic when it comes to the little things you do together. If your fling gets even the slightest idea that youโre panicking, they will panic as well, and the whole night will just blow over.ย Donโt spend too much time panicking over where youโre going, what theyโre saying, doing or wearing. In other words, try not to try too hard. Meaning, donโt get out of your way to do something you wouldnโt normally do. On the contrary, be honest by showing them the raw, true being that is you. Keep your cool, and freak out after itโs over.
When you get your summer fling, donโt fret! Turning your summer fling into an actual thing can happen in just a few basic steps that will guarantee a well bound relationship for the both of you. Keeping your cool, proving yourself, spending time together, and integration are just the way to do it. Breaking the surface of the superficial, summer-affected relationship is basically the way to the newfound relationship you want with this extraordinary person. Who knows, maybe this fling will be the ultimate thing.