By Yasmin Fahmy

If you’re one of the people who always say “yes” when they want to say “no”, then it’s high time you quit that bad habit. Saying “no” to an outing or a party you’ve been invited to won’t make you a bad person. It’s actually better than agreeing to come and backing out on the last minute. Nobody likes people who back out the last minute any way.

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And even if you agree to come and actually show up when you would rather be at home, you won’t actually enjoy the outing or party. What’s the point of saying “yes” in the first place? I understand that sometimes you need to show up because the person who invited you means a lot to you, but you have to differentiate between friends and acquaintances. If you’re hesitant about going someplace then ask yourself these questions “Would this person actually care about me being there?” “Is my free time actually worth going?”

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Another trap some people frequently fall for is saying “yes” at work or school to something that’s optional just to impress the boss/teacher. Taking on optional tasks is great and wonderful if you have the time but if you’re a procrastinator like me then it’s getting you nowhere. It will only make you do the tasks halfway good but it won’t make you do the best you could do, and I’m sure nobody wants that.

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In summary, it can be said that instead of agreeing to everything and doing nothing or backing out last minute you should only agree to the things you actually want and have time to do. Because if you always agree so as not to upset everyone around you then back out and get things halfway done, you’re only giving people real reasons to get upset with you. So think before you say “yes”, because saying “yes” is a commitment.