Remember the cheesy line “One girl broke my heart into a thousand pieces, now each piece beats for a different girl” ? This line may actually be more true than it sounds.
There are so many types of playboys, but the three most common types are: the one who won’t settle for one girl (Go to hell), the one who got heartbroken by a perfect girl he loved so deeply so he keeps searching for bits and pieces of her perfect image in every girl, and the one who got Philophobia (Fear of falling in love and commitment).
A good relationship can’t change a guy, but a guy can change in order to get into a good relationship.
That’s why the following are not suggestions to make a playboy settle down, but rather to make the relationship interesting enough for him to want to get his foot in the door:
Don’t Play Hard To Get; Be Hard To Get
Playboys are attracted to the thrill of the chase and the risk element of brief encounters. Nothing worth having ever comes easy, remember? You’re worth having; aren’t you? Don’t lie or pretend like you don’t have feelings, but don’t pour out your heart and soul to him either. As soon as he finishes one of your chapters, let him know that there are more chapters to be read. Never let him reach the end of your book; that way he will never close the book on you.
Keep Him On His Toes
Not knowing the way is not something a playboy is used to, because he always got the wheel. Constantly feeling alert to any bumps on the road is key to keep your playboy interested. He shouldn’t know exactly what to expect from you. Challenge him; prove him wrong when it’s necessary, and get him out of the life-teacher’s suit he’s always wearing. Let him see that you’re watching him and you expect his A-game too.
Be A Bit Mysterious
We could all use the allure of mysteries in our lives; they add a secret spice that we didn’t know was missing. So don’t put it all on the line, and spill it at his feet. Work on being less open; don’t let your player know exactly what’s on your mind. Do you like to move around a lot? Leave it at that, and don’t give him all the details. If you show up late, you don’t have to say what held you up. Shroud yourself in a bit of mystery; he has to do more work to get to know you.
Limit Your Communication
As a rule, you should text each other about the same amount. If he’s calling you a lot, then you should call him at least a few times to keep things fairly even. Giving him too much attention will make him run for the door because it will chain him and he’s used to free-floating. Limiting your communication will show him that you have better things to do than to worry about him all the time, and he’ll be even more intrigued by you.
Fair warning: those tips might sound like a piece of cake; the truth is they aren’t. You’re bound to never stop applying them; the door won’t ever be locked as long as there is a player in the house. Before getting involved in that kind of relationship, you better take a deep breath because it’s a long ride.
