Oh love, the one thing we all strive for. We wish for the perfect love story, the charming fairytale prince to come sweep us off our feet. We simply forget that love isn’t at all perfect!
Love, like pretty much everything else, is a reality. A complex one, in fact.
You wait for the flawless partner who loves you unconditionally but you never notice that it might just need a bit more than that. That love and understanding come hand in hand. One cannot be without the other.
In order to fully love your partner, you need to understand them and understand yourself as well. Within that concept of understanding comes a very important aspect that you need to take into consideration, your partner’s love language.
What’s a love language, you may ask. It’s basically your way of defining what love is, from your perspective. It’s what makes your love stronger and more whole.
Different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways. If we all learn to understand each other’s preferences, we’ll connect on a deeper level. That’s what love really is!
What are the five languages of love?
Acts of Service
This one’s pretty simple! If this is your partner’s love language, they’ll appreciate what you do to make their life easier. It can be something as simple as making them a cup of coffee in the morning, pampering them with breakfast in bed on Sunday, or doing the laundry. Pretty much anything that would take some weight off their shoulders and let them know they have someone to help them through it all.
Receiving Gifts
Quite straightforward, they love gifts! Get them a gift on your anniversary and they’ll feel on top of the world! Birthday gifts sure are a yearly awaited treat! Valentine’s gifts are a plus! Anytime they feel like they’re always on your mind and in your heart, they’ll be head over heels for you!
Quality Time
This one’s probably the most underrated love language of all five! Don’t take this as a given, if your partner’s love language is quality time, spend more time with them!
They’ll appreciate the fact that you actively want to spend most of your time with them and start dedicating more of their love to you too!
It’s a win win situation, you get to spend more time with the one you love and leave them extremely happy and satisfied. Once you understand yourself and your partner, it’s as easy as you want it to be!
Physical Touch
Your partner will feel their best when they receive physical signs of affection! Hold their hand and they’ll feel extremely loved, hug them and their heart will beat faster for you!
Nothing beats an act of affection that leaves your partner feeling like you understand them the most and know exactly how they’re feeling!
Words of Affirmation
These people are very much verbal lovers! They appreciate a nice word from their partner; an unexpected “I love you”, a simple “I’m proud of you” along the way. Pretty much sharing sweet heartfelt words with them would get you one step closer to their hearts!
How to know which one of the languages is yours or your partner’s
Take the quiz! You’ll have to answer a couple of questions that’ll tell you everything about yourself and your love language!
Don’t forget to make sure your partner takes the quiz too so that you both can understand how to love each other better!
How To Use Them
Know your love language so you can communicate it to those around you to help them love you in a way that suits you! Understand your partner’s love language and make sure you put this understanding to action!
Don’t just get yourself familiar with the languages. Instead, act on them! When your partner’s upset, use their love language to find a way to make up using one thing they’d appreciate the most. When they have accomplished something huge, remember what they love and do it to let them know you’re proud of them.
