Why do I ALWAYS attract losers? Why do all my partners have similar personalities or characteristics? What usually starts out with dinner, wine, and roses, ends in leaves and cleaves. Disappointment and frustration is all I get;. my relationships are nothing but déjà vu.

Maybe I’m the one who has a problem; I do not learn from past experiences. I’m probably romantically impulsive and  want to fall in love too quickly! I get emotionally involved without thinking of the consequences; does this partner really deserve me, or do I even have a strong motive to move forward with the relationship or not…  But no, no, no! surely,I’m not the problem. I’m not ten years old;  I’m just a big man in a big world full of losers… YES LOSERS! All my partners are selfish careless losers; they receive without giving or caring about what I like and how I feel! They speak and don’t listen…

But hold on! My grandmother once told me that, “birds of a feather flock together” which means that I, too, must be a loser to attract my own kind…Ohh really?! Does that mean we’re all losers? Does that mean that I’m bound to end up with losers forever? Won’t I ever find someone good enough for me? Will I be surrounded by losers for as long as I shall live? OH MY GOD! I can’t think any more, it’s time to gulp a “Xanax” pill and go to sleep before my head explodes!

But before I take my chill pill, I just need to come clean about this. Truth is, no one is perfect, so don’t expect too much of your partner, or give without waiting for something in return. It is quite normal to keep running into those types of people until you eventually find THE one who really deserves you. When you do finally meet them you will appreciate them even more after having  met too many lousy ones before. Slowly but surely, I know… And if you’re really looking for perfection, you’re on the WRONG planet!