We all hear the statement “your life will never be the same when you have kids”, but not all of us will realize the fact that this statement isn’t about the change that will happen to your routine or your lifestyle, it’s about the emotional changes that people go through the second they become a parent.
A few days ago, actress Basma got the chance to talk in details about a lot of aspects in her personal life in a TV interview. She spoke about postpartum depression, her latest role in Naseeby We Esmetak and how she got infected with COVID twice, among other personal things.
However, it was one part of the interview that caught almost everyone’s attention. It was when she admitted how motherhood changed her and recounted how she had very different views and perspectives on life before becoming a mother. She was strongly opposed to breastfeeding and to the idea of a child co-sleeping with her in bed.
She confessed that she refused the idea of breastfeeding before becoming a mother. Basma went on to say that when people asked her about her reasons, she’d explain that it would make her feel like she’s filling in the role of a cow in someone’s life. However, after giving birth to her daughter, everything changed. All her logic disappeared into thin air, as her emotions took over.
When she had the luxury of time to bond with her daughter Nadia, Basma ended up doing everything she said she wouldn’t do. She breastfed her daughter for two years and even had trouble sleep-training Nadia, until her husband did it. Basma said that her daughter has her wrapped around her finger.
Now with all the facts laid out straight on the table, some people still decontextualized Basma’s statements and made memes out of them.
Nevertheless, people were quick to defend Basma and cleared the air themselves in the comments section.
The moral of the story is that motherhood really changes women. No matter what perspectives, values, and beliefs they previously held; all vanishes at the first sight of their children.
Physically, emotionally, and scientifically, you are never the same person after giving birth. And in spite of her choice of wording, that’s exactly what Basma intended to shed light on.
