How To Survive:
When coming out of such an abusive intense relationship chances are you have been damaged, psychologically, emotionally, or even physically. You will need time to heal, understand what you went through, accept it, deal with its nightmares, time get back on your feet, and re-find your self.
Block them from your life.
If this is an option you can do go ahead and do it right away. Stop sympathizing or empathizing with them, quit the fear, they are bad for you and you need to keep as much distance as possible no matter what.
Come to peace with your flawed decisions.
Its alright that you were in a bad relationship, no matter how long, the important thing is that you are out of it; you can now learn from that relationship and move on to a better healthier life.
Become selfish.
You will need to recover, and you will have to make that recovery your priority. Focus on what is best for you and meeting your own needs, rather than focusing on what anyone else needs. You need to understand that this coming period is a rehabilitation period, give yourself the chance and the time, you need it, and more importantly you deserve it.
Don’t overwhelm yourself.
During that bad relationship you might’ve lost a job, unhealthily lost or gained weight, lost friendships, lost confidence, lost your identity, and more. You need to take things one step at a time, you can’t fix everything at the same time. Seek support from family, friends, and professional help. Work on getting yourself back together one step at a time.
Identify your weaknesses and work on them.
Stand up for yourself, say no when you need to, and refuse situations you are uncomfortable with.
Find peace and serenity.
Cut down stressors from your life no matter how small they are. Give yourself some time off, maybe go on a retreat, or simply go on a relaxing trip. Even when you are stuck at home find what brings you peace and do it, pray, practice yoga, meditation, painting, dancing, hiking, playing music, driving, whatever it is do it. Try to do it every day if possible.
Find friends that will support you.
If your current friends don’t support you, or you’ve lost them along the way, find new friends that will be there for you, supporting you throughout your recovery, helping you get back on your feet and stay strong.
Talk about it.
Open up and share your experiences with others. Sometimes saying things out loud helps put things in perspective and helps you in dealing with them.
Hold back on dating.
You need time to heal or else you will stumble in your next relationship. Take some time off dating, work on yourself, and really get back on your feet before you start seeing anyone new. If you don’t you might harm yourself again, or even worse, harm your new partner. “One should be capable of being alone, utterly alone, and yet tremendously blissful. Then you can love.” Osho.
