Though weddings happen all year round, there’s an unspoken rule that wedding season aligns with summer. Since it’s fall already, this wedding season is almost over. So, how many weddings did you attend, and how many were you not invited to? Of course, you don’t have to get invited to each wedding there is in the season, but most importantly, whose weddings were you not invited to?
And there’s a better question to ask yourself, why did you expect to be invited to that wedding? Maybe you put too much trust or faith in the wrong person. Maybe they thought that other people were more deserving to be in the wedding if they had a tight guest list. But why did you not make it to that list, this is a wedding, not the Hunger Games, after all.
While this action might feel mean, hurtful, cold, or even questionable, it’s time to face the music and accept that it’s the couple’s right to decide who to invite and who not to. It’s sensible that couples invite people who are close to them and who would feel happy for them, and it’s okay for some people to think you’re not that person.
No matter why or whether it’s true or not in your point of view, the only thing you have to do is move on, and maybe then you should take this as a wake-up call. It’s your time to re-evaluate this friendship or relationship and ask yourself some questions like why did you think you should be in that wedding, but they thought differently?
The adult way to deal with this situation is to congratulate the couple, anyway, and then act upon the person’s action based on the new dynamic of this friend/relationship. If you felt sad or weird about something, then you did, and it’s valid. So, you have the choice to change your boundaries with this person. And that’s simply because not inviting someone to something is a statement in itself just like not choosing is still a choice.
So, next wedding season, try not to have any expectations and just go with the flow of the happy season!
