“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.”
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Friendships are one of the strongest bonds between human beings; they develop long before one is old enough to recognize romantic love or relationships and are only topped by the mother-child bond. Friendship is being there for each other no matter what; it’s having a partner in crime, a family member, a shoulder to cry on and a helping hand all at the same time. And that’s why if you’re fortunate enough to have these types of friends in your life, you should keep them forever.
Life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies; sometimes it throws you with a brick in your face to remind you that it’s meant to be hard. One of life’s hardest bricks are friendship breakups. When a close friend suddenly disappears, it changes us and breaks our hearts more than anything else does. They leave us with a scar and the overthinking of why it happened. Sometimes, the overthinking and pain can last for months if we did not deal with this breakup the right way. Here’s how we should confront such a tragedy….
Closure
Asking for closure is a major step when a close friend abruptly breaks up with you. You may stay for days, weeks or even months wondering what went wrong to end your friendship this way. You will consume your happiness, effort and time trying to figure out the reasons and you may never do. A phone call or one last meeting will set things straight and will allow you to understand everything.
Time
Don’t rush the process of moving on. If the reasons are clear and you know this friendship is done, you will move on sooner or later. Remember that you’ve been friends with this person for so long; don’t expect to wake up one day forgetting all about the times you spent together. You will move on and it will take time. Breathe; take it slowly. Take all the time you need, and it will pass.
Acceptance
When discovering that they’ve finally moved on and that they’re not grieving anymore, many people tend to contact their ex-close friends again and try to seem casual about it. This is so wrong. Once it’s done, you have to accept the fact that they are no longer here, and probably will never be. They probably moved on with their lives and that’s what you should do too if you don’t want to be trapped in the past.
New Beginnings
The final step of this journey is ‘new beginnings’; starting a new chapter in your life is an assurance that you have finally closed the old one. Involve yourself in new activities where you would be able to meet new people; don’t look for a new best friend who would replace the old one. Look for good friends and pray for the old ones.
